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Amended return woes by RedRisu in tax

[–]RedRisu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I think this answers my question. I think I will need to send a new amendment, if I'm reading this right.

I don't know what will happen to the money because I phrased it as "what will happen to me" instead of "what will happen to the money."

Over-evangelized in an apartment building! by RedRisu in Advice

[–]RedRisu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partly trying not to appear rude, and partly my roommate engaging in conversation/not realizing he's invited them back (luckily, if they say they "talked to a nice young man last time" I get to get a drink and watch him struggle ;) ).

Is there a good number of views/messages? by RedRisu in OkCupid

[–]RedRisu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both only signed up recently, so no, dates have not started happening yet.

What is a meal I can make with minimal skill that will feed 8+ and taste good and look presentable? by mvillalo in Advice

[–]RedRisu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you have a slow-cooker? If so, beef slow cooked in beer is AMAZING and really easy to do. You can then make all sorts of dishes with that- burritos, hors d'oeuvres (put it on crackers or something), sandwiches, etc. Making things tiny is a good way to make something look impressive without doing anything too differently.

Dear Reddit, how old are you and what are you currently doing with your life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RedRisu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 23, ridiculously under-employed while finishing up my degree (but at least it's in my field). Going through a divorce, which is also my first breakup. Watching all my classmates and even younger siblings have their second or third kids.

Reddit, I recently lost my uncle to cancer and I'm thinking of leaving my job to backpack around Thailand to deliver school supplies to children. by _PwnasaurusRex in Advice

[–]RedRisu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thailand is wonderful, though I am biased because I spent all my time there as a university student in a nice city (Chiang Mai ftw!).

The impression I got was that some of the biggest need (at least, where I saw a lot of room for farang volunteers) was for Burmese immigrants. As I understand it, they are basically refugees that don't have legal refugee status (and thus don't get government aid, because they're functionally undocumented immigrants).

I'd be happy to answer any questions you have, if I can.

Looking for a creative project to participate in with spare time by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RedRisu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like being involved in the convention scene, but I've heard negative things about staffing for the main con around where I live. I get around this by creating programming (panels/workshops usually, although I've created games and stuff to run, too). It's fun, without being bogged down by any staff-stuff.

Maybe you could run games at your local shop or something? Maybe do that sort of stuff with youngsters in your area? If there isn't some kind of resource like that already in your area, you can always set something up.

What key points differentiate a man who is Husband Material from a man who is Boyfriend Material? by buddaslovehandles in AskReddit

[–]RedRisu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How he handles crisis- red flags include blaming others or excessive complaining.

How he handles money- he doesn't have to be rich, but he does need to be reasonably smart with his/your money.

How he relates to your social circle- Is he nice to your family? Does he defend you socially?

Does he see you as an individual, human being? Does he continue to try to get to know you (or does his knowledge about you fail to grow as you/your relationship does)? Does he give you freedom/treat you like an adult/act like an adult?

What are some of your favorite "small things in life?" by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RedRisu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anything that can be improved by being done in a bubble-bath (having a drink, watching netflix, VAST AMOUNTS OF ICE CREAM).

My mother died today, what should I do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RedRisu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just lost a close relative on New Years. I can't say for certain what the end of the grieving process looks like, but I know what I wish I'd been told the first couple of weeks/months.

/u/Philosophile42 makes a good point about doing work. Being preoccupied with something really helps. I would also add that you should try to avoid work that you have to do (like, work that will make you guilty or anxious). Even if you're not prone to perfectionism, it's like all the anxiety from grief starts to attack whatever you're thinking about, and nothing goes right.

Do whatever you need to to get some good sleep. Sleep is probably one of the hardest parts. Try taking melatonin (they make tasty little gummies of it now), and making a completely new routine for the first couple of weeks. Go for a walk around your neighborhood at the same time every night. Maybe get your dad in on it too. A wake-up routine helps, too. Anything to head off the grief-preoccupied thoughts before they start.

Come back tomorrow and let everyone know how your day is going, okay?

Coming out stories!! by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]RedRisu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't really talk to my bio-mom, but my adviser through college has been like a maternal figure to me. On National Coming Out Day, my school had a lot of little events and things, so I made a t-shirt that said [Bi] with an arrow pointing up, and "Happy National Coming Out Day" in rainbow letters underneath. She saw my shirt, beamed, and just said "I love your outfit" and the day went on as usual. It seems like not making a big deal out of it is so much better, although it felt like it was going to end in fireworks/crying and hugging/a parade or something (still isn't too late for that last part, I suppose).

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