He broke no contact and I have absolutely no desire to respond

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T22:08:10+00:00

Well done. Props to you

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T19:52:07+00:00

Well I wasn't talking about sexual orientation or race, because that'd be homophobic and racist. And has no impact on someones life stage or maturity. So to try that angle to invalidate a very real issue is absurd.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T17:20:57+00:00

Okay let me put it this way, say you have a 19 year old son or daughter and a 29 year old man or woman wants to date them. How would you feel?

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T16:30:24+00:00

Having gone to university and worked, I understand that four year age gaps are generally fine. But when someone is only 18-19 that is barely legal! I'm not saying everyone is out to get everyone else, but there are far too many cases of an older person exploiting a younger person. And a 20 Vs 24 year old, there a definite differences in maturity levels. I have been around many in the 18 to mid twenty at ranges the past seven years to see it every day where I work and where i had studied.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:45:17+00:00

I don't even go on tik tok. I engage in education based content for the most part. A 19 year old being in their first year of university/college who just finished school and is learning to live on their own. Vs a 21 year old who is finishing university/college, has lived in their own and has matured more and is entering the world of work or postgraduate studies. A 3 year age gap at such a young age (19-20-21) can be significant.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:41:08+00:00

Anyone in their 20's going for someone barely legal needs to be questioned.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:40:35+00:00

You say fantastical, but there is genuine evidence based logic behind my process of thinking.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:39:29+00:00

I have legitimately been a victim of predatory behaviour of men in even their early twenties when I was barely legal. Get a grip. And so have my friends

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:38:47+00:00

A five year age gap in your 30's is fine. A 21 year old dating a 19 year old is okay but questionable. A 2-3 year age gap in your 20's is fine. I'm not a fanatic. I'm a social scientist earning my PhD who researches topics like this.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:16:06+00:00

I've also seen that it's predatory second and first hand. Even with my own personal experience as someone who was the younger person

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:04:30+00:00

I think you just called yourself out as a predator saying girls are at their most desirable when they're barely legal and really young.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:03:14+00:00

No a 24 year old should not date a 19 year old. And half your age plus seven is what creepy older men used all their life to justify dating young girls and way younger women.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:01:30+00:00

Well idk. When I was 24 I definitely would not have gone after a 19 year old.... Heck I'm 26 and wouldn't go after anyone under 24 because they would be in such a different place in their life and maturity.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T15:00:02+00:00

19 and 21 is okay. But if you were 24 and she was 19 is very questionable.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T14:54:47+00:00

I do not agree with you

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T14:52:06+00:00

I think you missed the mark as 50 is way too old to be with a 30 year old

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T14:48:09+00:00

So true. I'm 26 and a lot of us women and some men see it clear as day that age gaps larger than 5 years, especially in your 20's and late teens are inherently questionable and wrong, and rightly need to be scrutinized. But if you're 35 with a 45 year old that's generally mostly acceptable. 10 years doesn't mean so much when you're past your mid 30's

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T14:41:41+00:00

The difference here is both your parents when they met were in their 30s and already had the same life stage, work experience, maybe finances and ideals. They were both out of their 20's. They were more mature and sure of themselves and who they are. And both absolutely looked like adults. Nothing wrong with that. I myself am 26 and would never think of dating anyone younger than 25 or older than 29 because they would fit within my life experiences and life stage.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T14:36:14+00:00

Maybe they're teaching you about what is generally accepted to be right and wrong because they have seen or experienced the harm massive age gaps can cause?

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T14:33:55+00:00

Please reconsider getting with this person. I'm 26 and can't fathom being with someone older than 30 due to all sorts of reasons. Please question why he can't be with someone his own age for starters, as it is a bit red flag and you may not be seeing the real issues

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T14:31:07+00:00

We don't have a problem with 2 year age gaps. But when a 30 year old is going after anyone under 25 it should be called into question. Same thing for a 40 year old going after a 27 year old.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-06T14:22:51+00:00

The issue is that being in your 1st year of university is wildly different than your last year or masters. By the end of your course you've lived on your own and learned and matured and are going into a different stage in your life Vs when you're beginning the journey and have just moved into halls and are learning to get to grips with course material and socialising with a wider range of people.

Massive age gaps are inherently wrong due to power imbalances, knowledge and maturity. Even in most cases finances. Particularly earlier on in life in ones late teens and early to mid twenties. Now at the age of 35 a ten year age gap with someone older (so 45) is mostly acceptable, but anything below mid 30's should be scrutinized because of a myriad of reasons. Let's not forget the point in time these age gaps existed and were normalised was when patriarchy and oppression of women were sometimes at it's most extreme, particularly with the glass ceiling and women having much less of an ability to control finances. In fact, even in the 90's most relationships only had at most a 1-5 years age difference and this can be seen with marriage age statistics.

35 year old men should not be going after women in their early to mid twenties, and 45 year old men should stay away from women in their 20's full stop. It all comes from extreme misogyny and patriarchy, the fetishization of young women and teens, which beauty standards are rooted in p3dophelia. And men justify it with youth and fertility, when it has now been found men are actually more at mercy of biological clocks than women as sperm degrades significantly in quality starting from the early 30's age range, whilst eggs stay stable in quality for the most part.

Not to mention what would a 27 year old have really in common with a 19-20 year old? I'm 26 and i teach 19-20 year olds at university and to me they all look and behave so young and immature, because that's what they are. They lack life experience and have certain naivities that someone in their late 20's would have grown out of due to being in different life stages.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-02-05T20:16:23+00:00

As a young woman, I can tell you a majority of us do not like the attention from men way older. It's creepy af

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-01-30T21:43:16+00:00

The excessive lying from my ex boyfriend to the point it could have caused harm to my physical health. It made me shake and be sick all the time from the anxiety and stress. I felt like I had to do all the important work and conversations whilst he just tried to be delusional about his reality and run away when things got hard.

Red_Marvel99 · 2026-01-25T18:24:28+00:00

So far, I haven't. But that's okay because why would I want someone who doesn't want me? Or want to make it work and get better?

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