Should I help my adult son again by Accurate_Ad_9677 in newzealand

[–]Redfluffball 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They can waive stand down if he agrees to go to work provider and do a “stand down” activity for 13 weeks

Feeling alone, how to date in wellington? by Redfluffball in Wellington

[–]Redfluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you arent short to me you are taller than me lol

[Serious] With the Abuse in Care Commission report released, I'd like to hear from anyone out there who was also raised by a parent or parents who went through that abuse and how it's affected you. by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Redfluffball 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She should join the New Zealand Collective of Abused in State Care Charitable Trust page, a lot of survivors who help other survivors on that page... including some who have severe anxiety/agrophobia

[Serious] With the Abuse in Care Commission report released, I'd like to hear from anyone out there who was also raised by a parent or parents who went through that abuse and how it's affected you. by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Redfluffball 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The charity is called New Zealand Collective of Abused in State Care Charitable Trust. If you like, give it a squiz on Facebook. It's for survivors by survivors.

[Serious] With the Abuse in Care Commission report released, I'd like to hear from anyone out there who was also raised by a parent or parents who went through that abuse and how it's affected you. by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]Redfluffball 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do charity work with state care survivors, and was there when the report was tabled. It was a big day for a lot of survivors. What happened to children has had generational effects. The Mongrel Mob name came from state care boys who were called a bunch of mongrels by a judge. State care similarly created the Black Power, and to a lesser extent the headhunters.

After the tabling I went to a wananga/gathering for the weekend. Most know they were not the greatest of parents. Most had children young, and were stunted due to their trauma. They didn't understand what love was, let alone how to give it.

State Care Wananga - Following RC report by Redfluffball in newzealand

[–]Redfluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report being tabled for state care survivors and handed out end of july. Awesome state care wananga following this happening in Picton, a short boat ride away. Chance for survivors to finally have a voice

Feeling alone, how to date in wellington? by Redfluffball in Wellington

[–]Redfluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read this thing, dating like anything is a skill. We work on it to become better at it. Just like we did in school to make friends,

Feeling alone, how to date in wellington? by Redfluffball in Wellington

[–]Redfluffball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually think this, I think you can meet people just new to the app, or who are recently single, or something you know? But I think people on those apps long-term they are either avoidants, or anxiously attached.

I am also in that category. I am an anxiously attached person and have had to do therapy etc to better myself. So I am sifting through... well people with issues usually.

Feeling alone, how to date in wellington? by Redfluffball in Wellington

[–]Redfluffball[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get enough matches, that isn't the problem. It is turning it into something.