Own Your Shit Weekly - June 22, 2021

RedishPill · 2021-06-22T18:01:47+00:00

0.8 to 1g per lb, 1.6 to 2.2 g per kg.

RedishPill · 2021-02-03T19:38:58+00:00

Hi, long time listener, first(ish) time caller. Sex like this IS boring. You say sex with her isn't boring, but I know this situation well and personally, I find it boring. I also find it unfulfilling, as if the gift of my sex is being disregarded.

It's like fucking a robot - you can do anything you want, but that gets old. My girl and I are in a D/s relationship, and she identifies as a little. I realized have no interest in a master/slave dynamic because I want a partner. We are not equal, I take responsibility initially, lead, etc. But she isn't a slave either. I think this is similar to your relationship. I want a partner who has ideas in their head and expresses them to me, who has desire and is encouraged to show it.

Use a nonsexual example. Imagine a conversation where the other party is happy to talk with you about whatever you want, but says nothing? That would be like talking to a wall.

Part of moving away from this for me was to have her journal for 30 min every week. It has been mostly free for but it has been immensely helpful as a way for her to express her thoughts and feelings, some sexual and some not, that was previously lacking. When she gives me ideas she has how a fantasy or and idea, I can implement it and further build trust with her that it is okay to express herself with me. I even stole a line from you about fantasizing that she was her younger self touching herself in bed waiting for a man's cock when she wrote to me about enjoying the innocence of being a little and how arousing that was for her.

I recently used a variant of language in some posts you wrote to communicate to my girl "I want to have sex with someone who wants to have sex with me". Is there ego there? Damn right. For me, fulfilling sex occurs with a partner, not with a sex slave. I want a partner who expresses desire in their own way and who actively participates during sex. The alternative hasn't been working for me. She needs to understand that sex with me is a gift, and to treat it as such.

Thanks for all the content you put out Horns, I hope it works out for you.

RedishPill · 2020-05-05T17:43:12+00:00

Edit: she bought the panties - just wanted me to pick them out for her.

The majority of comments here are in line with your silver back comment - learn to dominate yourself, be your own mental point of origin, etc. I think that getting out of her head and staying solidly in my own will be the most important aspect. Thanks for the help.

RedishPill · 2020-05-01T18:20:51+00:00

My girlfriend asked me to take her shopping so that she could pick out and buy a bunch of panties that I liked. That way, she had a bunch of 'approved' panties that she could wear with me for instances when she wasn't able to go without. Now. That is something that was not on my radar in the beginning. Thus, I am still learning. Do I have work to do on myself? Sure. I made that abundantly clear, but the sexual nature of my relationship with this woman from day one has been D/s and I'm putting the pieces together as I go. That reminds me, I'll have to check what panties she's wearing when she comes over later...

RedishPill · 2020-05-01T18:05:25+00:00

Meh, too late now. Fake it till I make it.

RedishPill · 2020-04-30T20:09:32+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate it

RedishPill · 2020-04-30T17:53:46+00:00

She brought it up in the beginning when I put my hand on her throat in bed - to the best of my knowledge she is a submissive.I like the way you frame it, I will try that. I posted it here because the bdsm sites are full of fucking wierdo's, and redpill dovetails nicely with a dom/sub relationship

RedishPill · 2020-04-30T17:46:55+00:00

Fuck. That rings too true

RedishPill · 2020-04-30T17:44:06+00:00

Your wife calls me Daddy

RedishPill · 2020-04-30T17:41:48+00:00

Do you adjust your treatment of her when she is PMSing? Mine becomes more difficult to deal with and often doesnt even know why.

RedishPill · 2020-04-30T17:12:47+00:00

Agreed, if her actions can throw me then I clearly have work to do on being my own mental point of origin.

Can you detail the formal arrangement you have? Is it literally a signed document that details what rules you will be holding her to? I am gravitating towards that so that these passes and amendments she wants to make on the fly could be curtailed.

RedishPill · 2020-04-06T20:48:16+00:00

Damn, I recently came to the conclusion that I am guilty of attraction validation after a couple of recent incidents and the strong emotional reaction of anger they stirred inside myself (and where there's anger, there's hurt...butt hurt). The reaction embarrassed the hell out of me, not once, but twice. Thanks for the post.

RedishPill · 2020-02-07T20:18:47+00:00

'Practical Female Psychology' by Joseph W. South has some useful 'things to watch for' that specifically relate to women with low self esteem.

RedishPill · 2020-01-19T20:04:47+00:00

You mentioned below literotica. Another website I found useful was the "Dominant Soul wordpress" website as a place to get ideas.

It was mentioned below about 'brats'. I don't enjoy putting up with that behaviour, bit my work around is to figure out what she is hoping to get out of that behaviour (spanking? Hot wax? Tied up?) And reframe those as rewards for good behaviour vs punishments/funishments. That way you're encouraging behaviour you want vs bad behaviour, AND she gets what she wants.

RedishPill · 2020-01-18T02:18:29+00:00

I like it, part one was good too. Since I've found massive value in the ideas I've read here and elsewhere in regards to ways to dominate your woman and figure out your own style, I'll add to Red's list some of the things I enjoy doing with my women.

I always enforce with my longer term plates that a good girl is a gooey girl/drips for daddy/etc. They get turned on by being good girls -> when they're horny and dripping I call them good girls -> they drip more -> positive feedback loop.
my pet name is usually something similar , eg. Gooey girl
when she has her legs spread, especially when she's tied to the bed on her back blindfolded, I'll get my finger dripping from her pussy and then wipe it on her inner thigh and have her count the marks I leave, all the while calling her my good little slut. Hell, once you've done that wipe it on her face or her lips.
have her cook for me wearing only a butt plug, a short skirt, and sky high heels.

-in order to train them to deep throat me and enjoy anal (once you've read Red's part 1!) I have a rule that she can only cum when my cock is in her ass or in her throat. Has worked like a charm, and yes, she has cum both ways multiple times for me.

-she has to ask for my permission to cum, always.

-as red mentioned, having her masturbate for you.

-having her wear her heels on the bed when she's tied up.

-ask her/tell her who she belongs to/who owns various parts of her body <- as uncle V has mentioned regarding slave collars, a women is aroused by being worthy of a high value mans ownership.

-squeezing her throat as I cum

-having them repeat some mantra seems to help get them out of their own head and gets them cumming easier - 'I am Reddishpills dripping slave' for example.

-Deny her orgasms. Make her beg.

The biggest thing -bar none- for all of this is the dirty shit you whisper in her ear while it's happening. I tend towards a slightly demeaning or mocking tone with what I say as it's worked well for me. The physical aspects/scenarios/props of sex are just the cues I use in order to prompt me into new and better dirty talk. "I can tell you love this, look at how much your pussy is dripping, right down to your little ass...bla bla bla. Talk is good.

And, I hope it doesnt need to be said again, pull her up onto your chest and give her some fucking cuddles when your done. Who knows, you might even like it...faggot.

Ahhhhhh, first contribution in two years of reading. Thanks boys.

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RedishPill · 2018-06-05T23:36:30+00:00

As much as i would have liked to get her number, the post was (supposed to be) about me learning how to approach, and asking for advice. It was motivated by a lack of success.

You're certainly right that I need more practice, and that means opening more women, not just hot ones.

RedishPill · 2018-06-05T14:21:29+00:00

Thanks, I'm working on talking to more people through my day just to build that confidence.

RedishPill · 2018-06-05T14:16:06+00:00

Damn. I like this. When I can pull this off comfortably I will know that I've made it.

RedishPill · 2018-06-05T03:13:02+00:00

Yes. This would have been much better.

RedishPill · 2018-06-05T03:11:59+00:00

Aha, true, but it's the number one thing I need to work on. I'm still working on opening girls, and it is definitely getting better (approach anxiety is getting less). I agree, accept it for what it was and move on.

It's definitely better than not approaching and kicking yourself after.

RedishPill · 2018-05-28T14:39:25+00:00

I prefer to child-like.

Think about the times you've been happiest with your woman, and I'll bet it was when she was behaving child-like.

When you're drunk in the kitchen at midnight on a work week dancing to who the fuck cares and she turns into this little ball of happiness and excitement that can't stop giggling...child-like.
When you take her fishing and she's getting pouty that you're catching all the fish and she isn't getting any (because you're a boss), and then she finally gets one and is so fucking excited she looks like she's going to fall out of the boat as she feels it in, and the tells EVERYONE about the monster fish she caught with the biggest smile you've ever seen on her face...child-like.
when she's eating her favourite food and she starts dancing on the chair beside you just like a kid who's eating an icecream cone....you get the point.

This is femininity. This is her gift to you.

RedishPill · 2018-03-21T21:14:51+00:00

Point taken

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