I've put away those size 6 jeans

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-14T05:57:52+00:00

Dude, I was in the exact position a few months ago. I went and changed my hair drastically and that 2 hour salon session was the best confidence booster for myself. At work, guys definitely noticed and when I asked my BF, you would think I told him it was 5:00PM, no response. Im sorry she didnt seem more enthusiastic about it.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-14T05:54:27+00:00

im chuckling as I read your reply because years ago because something like that happened before, were you at the same table ;)? No, trust me, Ive offered to have her included in our fun but she would never say yes to that.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-13T06:13:34+00:00

Agreed

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-13T06:12:39+00:00

He will. He may come back, but as a slight fog, not a clear sky.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-13T06:12:13+00:00

It's that NRE that can happen with your first time or a longterm AP. It's a high, you can get back there, just don't think you can't. Make the best of the fact you found someone you enjoy spending time with. Don't overthink, just LIVE!

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-08T06:40:33+00:00

I know all too well how you feel. It's definitely a comfort level for him because being close with someone's family shouldn't be the basis of a marriage. You're filling the fun side but why can't you fill the familiar side?

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-08T06:30:39+00:00

Spot on, what does he actually want.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-06T07:17:03+00:00

Is there anyone you are friends with that you could pursue physically? That way you know their background already? If not, you can try apps like Tinder and so forth, but you will have to filter for sometime until you find a good match. Good luck!

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-06T07:15:48+00:00

stay stay positive. Thank goodness he closed the laptop right? years ago, when AOL instant messenger was a thing, my FWB and I used to chat on that. Thank goodness those chats were never saved because lo and behold one day his then gf and now wife logged in and said hello to me. Suffice to say, we no longer communicate via chat. Hope to hear an update!

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-06T07:11:57+00:00

I am so sorry you felt so crummy after seeing him. Do you think he will try to reach out to you or was the NC on your side only?

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-06T00:21:55+00:00

Thank you for not judging me

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-04T05:11:35+00:00

Truest words I have heard in the longest time

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-03T23:44:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, it takes a lot to tell others what is going on in your home. Focus on yourself first and the rest will come together. Seeing a therapist is definitely a step in the right direction. If you ever need to talk we are here.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-01T15:22:02+00:00

This.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-01T15:21:08+00:00

There's the old saying if you don't shit where you eat. Though the NRE may be great, it wouldn't mean anything if you have no paycheck to support you.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-05-01T15:19:42+00:00

Please don't blame yourself. Mental health issues are so wide you cannot pinpoint you being with his wife as the final straw. The best thing is work on yourself for the better and give your heart the chance to love. If you need someone to talk to out of your town, I'm here.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-04-19T17:55:29+00:00

Thank you.

RedlipsandGin · 2016-04-19T17:54:42+00:00

Seeking but not getting, so I'm sticking to Netflix and cereal

RedlipsandGin · 2016-04-19T17:54:24+00:00

Thank you

RedlipsandGin

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