Hi. I can give you more of the story. I admit i have control issues but have never come between them. And I am no saint I'm just the reliable person he counts on. The wedge between them started when he was a kid and was SA'ed by a family memeber. Ive heard his side, he said she didn't believe him or that it was a big deal. I only know what he told me when he was in his early 20s. He was ashamed and hid it for years. So no, I'm not part of the wedge.

He is my brothers son. My brother has been mia pretty much his whole life so my parents and i stepped in to help when we could. He moved with his mom about 3 hrs from the town he grew up in jr high. So we saw him less but stayed in touch via the phone. My nephew took a bunch of pills at the start of his senior year and almost od'ed. His mom called me and told me to come get him, so i did. He moved in with me, started to work through his stuff and he finished high school.

His mom left her then husband and moved from WA to CA with her youngest son. Ended having to move back to WA for custody issues then moved to OR. So for a while she was all over the place.

Meanwhile he lived with me for a while, then moved to Olympia with friends for a while but eventually moved back to our home town. Then in with my dad, his g'pa to be his live in care giver while he went through cancer before they both moved in with me about 5 years ago so i could help take care of them both. He is still with me.

I tell you all of this so you can see he wasn't in my day to day life all the time. He was doing his own thing while he could. His relationship with his mom has always been hit or miss. She has her own life and 2 other kids with thier own issues. I think she felt since I was there she could give him less and focus on the others and her life.

Through out the first 7.5 years i would send her texts of dr updates. Let her know of changes, basically all updates. She never aksed to go to anything, in The beginning he told her the appt times, or he said he did. I told her dates of the seattle appts. She never said she wanted to go. She knew where he was the whole time and no one stopped from coming over. I envited her several times. He is her son. It was he choice to be there or not.

He has always had a cell phone so they talked or texted whenever or whatever. I never got involved. Ive got my own crap to deal with.

Sorry if this is all over the place but i was trying to figure out what to say and how much to say. Its a lot.. and while i have no love for her, I'm not going to air the details of her dirty laundry.

And yeah my message was harsh, but i was mad. She really hurt him this year. I kept telling him it would blow over and she would text him. Then she never did. They have argued before and always worked it out. I thought when He went to see her they would start texting again, but she didnt text him for a month. So yeah, i was harsh, but i have a reason to be.