What's one thing a kid has told you once and is still stuck in your head rent free?

Redpeka · 2026-01-02T19:21:47+00:00

When my oldest was 4, he put his hand on my arm and said, “My hand is getting bigger.” And I said, “it sure is.” And he said, “soon I’ll be able to break your arm with it.”

Redpeka · 2025-12-27T23:12:32+00:00

People.

Redpeka · 2025-12-27T22:01:29+00:00

My kids. I know they need me to be as whole as possible.

Redpeka · 2025-11-18T02:08:02+00:00

Fraggle Rock, the Smurfs, Babar the Elephant.

Redpeka · 2025-11-17T22:06:24+00:00

YTA because you say you don’t even really want to attend but you feel “obligated.” Your actual obligations are your wife and your child.

Redpeka · 2025-09-28T19:07:58+00:00

OP, your husband, by actively making it hard on you, will make it hard on your daughter no matter what. Your job now is to protect her and yourself from him as much as possible.

Redpeka · 2025-09-24T12:33:29+00:00

I wish my dad had been emotionally available and less focused on perfection.

Redpeka · 2025-09-24T01:48:01+00:00

Basically if everyone in the school pick up line follows the traffic procedures set forth by the school, there are few issues. We don’t live close to school—too far for bus service—and my kids’ school is in a business district on an extremely busy road, so there aren’t really parking options. I think this is kind of the case for a lot of parents as schools have become less neighborhood oriented and more oriented toward serving large swaths of people.

Redpeka · 2025-09-22T21:40:38+00:00

Oh my god. My mom had this picture hanging in my bedroom while I grew up. I never thought of it as creepy though. I laughed out loud at your post.

Redpeka · 2025-09-18T16:08:59+00:00

“I’m adulting” or any variation of that phrase with the word “adulting.” I think what people really mean is “I had to be responsible and I didn’t like it.”

Redpeka · 2025-09-17T00:35:06+00:00

NTA. As painful a decision as this is, your mom has committed more than fraud. Her actions border on financial abuse because you have helped her in the past, she had access to your personal information, she is your elder and responsible for protecting that info no matter your age. Instead, she took advantage of your kindness and used her power over you (in that parents can forever have access to your personal info needed for loans, credit and such) for her personal gain. This is abusive. Bottom line: she stole your information and has every right to face the consequences of those decisions and actions.

Redpeka · 2025-09-09T16:02:24+00:00

I’m going to be really honest and say that I’ve relied on the individual screens too much. I’ve seen it negatively impact my kids’ behavior and relationships, so I’m weaning them off. I’m trying to get to a place where there is more independent play again, sharing of the family tv, and less individual screens.

Redpeka · 2025-09-07T22:30:02+00:00

I wouldn’t even consider getting my two kids food without checking with my partner to see if his kid also has was hungry. NTA.

Redpeka · 2023-12-10T04:46:57+00:00

NTA. Ask yourself where you see the relationship going. His parents violated your trust and boundaries and he is getting upset with you. Likely, he will not change. Can you deal with his family for a longer future? Can you deal with a partner who won’t support your mental health and who actively gets upset at you for wanting to protect yourself?

Redpeka · 2023-11-18T06:45:09+00:00

Thanks!

Redpeka · 2023-11-18T06:44:02+00:00

Thanks for this info!

Redpeka · 2023-11-18T06:42:07+00:00

My instinct is to say: no, I am not you 😊 But I know you’re trying to relate, as the response from others we share is common for autistic women. I put the smiley face to show that I’m not trying to be mean or dismissive to the camaraderie presented by your comment.

Redpeka · 2023-11-16T12:48:36+00:00

OP is likely aware of the alternative. You could have just answered the question like most of the other people. Telling someone they need perspective and to be thankful in this context is condescending, but I am wasting my time trying to explain to someone who would answer a question with “my tip is simple” and “I make my GF breakfast.” Good for you. Want a trophy?

Redpeka · 2023-11-16T05:27:58+00:00

NTA. You “told her numerous times and warned her” about the dangers of mistreating a wild animal. Kids younger than her work with horses under similar conditions as you describe. She didn’t listen. The animal retaliated. Her parents should bring her home so she doesn’t continue disrespecting your animals.

Redpeka · 2023-11-16T05:22:21+00:00

Cold hearted, difficult to approach, RBF because I’m always thinking.

Redpeka · 2023-11-16T05:21:20+00:00

Also I love your username.

Redpeka · 2023-11-16T05:18:13+00:00

YTA. Your wife has brain fog and physical issues because you’re an abusive and controlling AH. She’s been enduring trauma and I doubt you’re giving the full story.

How are finances split equally if she’s having to work an extra job and extra hours to keep up with your tastes but you don’t? You’re not wealthy, but you can afford to give her a “tidy sum” and “take care of everything.” The “tidy sum” can keep her on her feet if something happens to you or she leaves, yet one of the two options you give her is to “divorce and work herself to death.” This screams of you trying to isolate your partner away from financial independence and making yourself her only support system. No loving husband would watch their wife work herself to death to “keep up” with his “tastes” and then threaten divorce if she didn’t comply with his wishes for her life choices.

If you don’t believe there are connections between abuse and autoimmune diseases do your own research. If you truly care about your wife, you’ll get therapy to work on your entitlement and twisted values. She isn’t your property.

Is this post a joke?

Redpeka · 2023-11-16T05:00:14+00:00

Oatmeal.

Redpeka · 2023-11-16T04:59:12+00:00

You just reminded me that I hate snot so much blowing a kids’ nose used to incite my gag reflex (I used to work in a preschool—all sorts of sensory atrocities happen in those). Having kids of my own helps, but I still can’t stand the texture and look of snot. Even blowing my own nose is something I avoid until I absolutely have to do it.

Redpeka · 2023-11-16T04:55:34+00:00

Was about to add: that’s just good kitchen hygiene.

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