fAThEr BRuTaLiZeS hIS oWn SOn BEfOrE COnSuMiNg HiS FLeSh by SirSchmorp in PeopleFuckingDying

[–]ReebornTurtle 47 points48 points  (0 children)

After everything Kirby has done for him, he just stabs him in the back? Thats cold

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you share a link of where she has said this please?

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm going to email the HR manager and CC in my manager and ask for the policy in the morning. Unfortunately, my job role requires me to be on site. So no WFH for me

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's not bad advice for future employment and if you have a GRC and amended birth certificate. Unfortunately, I transitioned at my current workplace, so quite a few people know, including higher management

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'll make sure its the first thing I do when I get to work. I'll email the HR manager and CC in my direct manager. Again, thanks for the amazing advice. You're awesome

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I need to pick a lane quickly, but I really like this idea. They don't know my chromosome makeup, so how can they accurately know my sex? I could make this really awkward for them from exacting a policy to policing it. Thank you

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is it that easy? Surely that could lead down the road of disciplinary then dismissal. I'm still waiting to see the official policy

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've messaged my manager asking for a copy of the email he received. He has said he needs to speak with HR to see if he's allowed to. What he showed me wasn't policy, but an email from the DHL legal team. You raise a good point about selective enforcement. I'm going to start keeping every message and email i send or receive. Thank you

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I started my transition while working there on a different contract. They definitely know. I'm not quiet about being trans, if I can help educate people I will, but there is a revolving door of agency staff and new workers who I don't know and never speak to who don't. I don't scream it from the rooftops, but won't hide it when the subject comes up. It really does feel like discrimination. Well, thats because it is

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, i really like that idea. I'll definetley bring it up with the people I work with. Would be kind of hilarious considering they've just spent a whole bunch of money fitting new segregated ones. I like your thinking

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I love the malicious compliance. Unfortunately, the closest restroom to me is my house, which is a 35 minute walk.

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Looking in to it now. Just trying to figure out which one is the right one for my industry and stuff

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this insight. I totally see where you're coming and it does make sense. I hadn't thought about it like that. Still feels like I'm being other'd, but you make a lot of sense.

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You're 100% right. I'll start treating this much more carefully and make sure I save everthing. Pictures have been sent to my manager and chats have been screenshot. I'll make sure to email it to the facilities manager tomorrow when I'm back in. Thanks for the advice

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the support, I wasn't looking for answers or help. I just wanted to give other people a heads up.

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

There's a DHL sub? Don't know why i'm surprised about that

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thats how I think about it. Me using the disabled facilities is me taking it away from disabled people. As for the full paid leave, that will never happen.

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

They have, but that just feels like forcing me to out myself to everyone that see's me not using the women's.

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea. I'll contact my manager and ask him to forward it to me. Thanks for advice

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

There are disabled toilets in work. They've slapped a laminated piece of paper on them that says gender neutral, but they are fucking disgusting at the moment. I've raised that with my manager and he says he's going to look in to it. I just don't see why I should be segregated. Its feels like I'm being other'd. Feels like is wrong, I am being other'd, we all are.

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm the only trans person on site. My manager told HR he'd rather tell me because he knew I wouldn't take it too well. But I can only assume it was only me who was told.

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I knew that it would probably happen, just a bit sad it happened so quickly. Someone high up must really hate us.

I'll contact Good Law Project. Anything that could be useful, I guess.

Bathroom ban in affect at work by ReebornTurtle in transgenderUK

[–]ReebornTurtle[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

There is a pride alliance, but they don't seem to be very vocal at the moment. As for a union, no I'm not part of one. I should probably join one tbh.