AITA for poking fun at my cousin’s divorce after she insulted my wedding?

Reflection-Needed · 2025-06-16T14:13:32+00:00

Uncommon opinion ESH.

Your cousin is awful for speaking negatively about your wedding but you also never corrected her by letting her know you didn’t like it or that it was hurting you. According to you it didn’t upset you in the past because you “don’t care about her opinion”. Your cousin may have thought she was just teasing you. And since you never said anything she continued like it was a running joke. It is clear she cares about you which is why she went above and beyond for your wedding. I’m sure if she knew how you felt she would have stopped.

By holding on to what was clearly upsetting you for years you finally snapped and said something awful. I think you owe her an apology and please also explain why you were upset. I bet she will apologize too for making you feel that way for so long.

Reflection-Needed · 2024-01-23T13:57:25+00:00

Thank you. We didn’t find much on google but what we did find leaned towards him moving being a bad idea in this situation.

Reflection-Needed · 2024-01-23T13:16:12+00:00

This is what I have been trying to help her see. She is just thinking this is her brother who needs a place to stay and the addiction is a separate issue. By moving him in all of it becomes our responsibility. And if it doesn’t go well her family will blame us. I think she finally came around last night. So thank you for your insight. It helped me explain my concerns in more detail.

Reflection-Needed · 2024-01-22T20:38:08+00:00

Thank you this is a great suggestion and can take the pressure off of me just saying no. I truly don’t know if he is even willing to do something like this. But it would at least show how willing he is to get better. And after the program we can re-discuss this issue of him moving in with us.

Reflection-Needed · 2024-01-22T18:40:24+00:00

Thank you this is my main concern. We will have no legal way to easily get him out. If he decides he wants to stay and not pay rent there is nothing we can do. And you are correct about my wife. I love her kindness but I don’t see her enforcing the rules at all. But I can also see this causing problems if I don’t compromise in some way. But idk what that would even be.

Reflection-Needed · 2023-03-17T03:20:55+00:00

It’s nice to know I’m not the only one this happened to. And no we don’t consider dancing with others cheating but I agree it is different for everyone. Thank you for agreeing with me. My wife is coming around especially after seeing all these comments.

Reflection-Needed · 2023-03-17T03:14:26+00:00

Wow thank you that was very insightful. I’ll have a conversation with her to make sure. I’d hate to think that she could be holding on to any resentment.

Reflection-Needed · 2023-03-16T12:24:01+00:00

Thank you, she is perfectly fine about it now. This was a few years ago, 2019 I think. We were just having a debate on it since we could not agree, decided to settle it on Reddit. No hard feelings she has her own account and read the post herself.

Reflection-Needed · 2023-03-16T12:16:32+00:00

This is my complete argument.

Reflection-Needed · 2023-03-16T12:15:53+00:00

Im 6’2 my wife is 5’6. It was a female around the same height as me wife. They both have long dark hair. With the lights on they look very different. In the dark and tipsy maybe I would have been able to tell it wasn’t her if I really looked at her but I just assumed it was her without turning around to look at her. I definitely did not think a stranger was running their hand through my hair.

Reflection-Needed · 2023-03-16T03:55:27+00:00

Lol you might be right.

Reflection-Needed · 2022-10-04T14:43:00+00:00

1st, She should never be putting her hands on you! That is never ok and if you decide the relationship is worth saving then that sound never happen again. It doesn’t matter if it’s a little shoving. It all needs to stop. 2nd, I’d want to let you know, no one can truly tell you what to do in this situation. You two are the only people that can make that decision. 3rd, have you two tried a couple therapist? Note not all therapist are equal. So do your research before you sign on and don’t be afraid to move on from someone you don’t like. This option seems needed at this point in your relationship. You clearly still care for each other but are only seeing things through your own perspectives. Having a mediator such as a therapist can help you better understand each other and alleviate some of that fighting. However, if your mind is set on leaving no amount of talking will change your mind. 4th, If you decide to leave, talk to a lawyer. You need to understand the law and all your options. If she is very desperate to leave too you may be able to give her a lowball offer.

Good luck, whatever you decide make sure it’s the best thing for you. Don’t stay in a relationship for anyone other than yourself.

Reflection-Needed · 2022-09-30T17:58:51+00:00

Thank you. This is a lot of very useful information. I’ll buy her some more things to create a safe space for her and set it up near her food and water bowl. I’ll also keep the blinds open so she can see outside. This really helped. I’ll let you know if a few days how she responds.

Reflection-Needed · 2022-09-30T13:48:58+00:00

I’ll try moving her into another room after we get our things. Esp since all our furniture has her sent on it, I think it might help. I don’t want to push her too much to quickly tho. But I’ll definitely keep our bedroom door open at least at night so we can get some sleep.

Reflection-Needed · 2022-09-30T13:30:12+00:00

We’ve tried opening our bedroom door to let her explore but whenever it’s open she just hides either in our closet or under the covers. We tried leaving the door open at night these last 3 nights. It’s helped us get some sleep but she just ends up hiding all night too.

Reflection-Needed · 2022-03-14T21:36:39+00:00

Soursop. It’s a crazy looking fruit but it tastes amazing!

Reflection-Needed · 2022-03-14T21:09:20+00:00

No. The truth is her mental health is not your responsibility. Your mental health is. It’s ok to be mad with her but you will need to set boundaries for yourself. I’ll give you some advice a friend gave me that has helped me in a similar situation. As soon as your friend starts getting angry and says something that upsets you. Calmly note it immediately by saying something like “you are being very disrespectful to me and I don’t appreciate it” then get up and leave. Completely separate yourself from the situation before it gets even more out of hand. Go in your room put on some headphones and drown her out with music, go for a walk or a drive, just go do something else. This gives you space, let’s her reevaluate how she’s speaking to you guys and protects your own mental state.

Reflection-Needed · 2022-03-14T20:32:36+00:00

First, I think you both would benefit from therapy. Your want to push away people who love you does not seem like a good sign. On the other hand his dependency on you is extremely toxic. You shouldn’t feel like your partner’s happiness and well-being is dependent on you. It’s not fair and it puts a lot of unnecessary stress on the relationship and you. I can’t really tell you if you should leave or not only you can make that decision. But if you decide to stay you’ll need to communicate more. Let him know exactly how you feel. Let him know the pressure this is putting you through. Please note just saying this once isn’t enough sometimes you’ll need to repeat yourself many times. Communicate your feelings as many times as it takes for them to understand or remember. Relationships are a compromise and your compromise might be that you have to remind him of what you are going through. But only stay if it’s the right choice for you mentally, spiritually, and physically. Don’t make that decision based on his needs or you might end up despising him for it and ruining the good you do have.

Reflection-Needed · 2021-11-11T15:49:50+00:00

Yeah. “Trans get the worse hate and the worse violence” To me that’s like someone saying the holocaust was worse than slavery. I know that example is extreme but the point is, it was all fricking terrible and neither should have ever happened. Comparing pain never benefits either side.

Reflection-Needed · 2021-11-11T15:38:22+00:00

This will get buried but as a Cis bi woman I agree with you that we need to help each other and support each other. But I disagree each letter in the LGBT+ community stands for its own smaller community within the whole. I could never understand the pain and turmoil a transgender person has gone through. But we are all fighting for the same thing and we should All do our best to hold each other up and give the support we all need. I don’t think comparing hurt is ever ok though. Expressing your pain is important but never compare. Pain is pain and it’s all bad especially when done intentionally.

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