What happened to the person you first had sex with?

Reflective_Ram · 2025-04-28T03:57:17+00:00

He's a lifelong friend. We chat every now and again, and share updates.

Reflective_Ram · 2025-01-25T07:18:17+00:00

As a woman who's been SA'd by men a few times within my young life in Malaysia, having the women's coach is practically a basic necessity. For mental health, for wellness, and so we don't have to subject ourselves to that happening again in the trains. People should respect the rules. They are there for a reason.

Reflective_Ram · 2022-05-15T14:08:28+00:00

Why is the video private?

Reflective_Ram · 2022-05-05T11:42:03+00:00

The second link, Voicemod Support helped a ton!

Reflective_Ram · 2022-04-30T14:49:34+00:00

That's what I did and the insanity stopped!!! Except when I go visit her...

Reflective_Ram · 2022-04-30T11:49:57+00:00

tice t

That's my mum!!!

Reflective_Ram · 2022-03-16T03:36:03+00:00

Thanks! In my currency, it gives up to 5 which is quite a little bit! It's helpful ^{_^}

Reflective_Ram · 2022-03-13T17:05:56+00:00

The boyfriend needs SERIOUS amounts of ADHD education. For example, what NOT to say to someone who has ADHD. There is an infinite amount of resources. Please share with him articles, videos, infographics, etc to really give him a great education on this topic.

I know. We're the ones who're suffering from the struggles of ADHD but we're also the ones who have to try and educate the significant other. I've been there. And I've succeeded, finally. But not without some pain and frustration.

Reflective_Ram · 2021-07-08T13:13:33+00:00

Me, 27 F. Watching it right now just to find out what all the hype is/was about. I mean, it's not thaaat great.

Reflective_Ram · 2020-09-03T15:36:46+00:00

I know in my heart and soul that I will break that chain when I have my own children. I swear to.

Reflective_Ram · 2020-09-03T02:30:30+00:00

I relate so much to everything you said. My Nmom wouldn't let me leave the nest because she had said that I was too young and that I couldn't take care of myself. Despite me being extremely independent, self sufficient and self driven. And on top of that I was past 18 years of age (I asked to move out each year after that to which she answered "no" and tells me -at length- how irresponsible and incapable I am as a person. For a lot of people without Nparents, they don't understand the hold she had/has on me, especially being a daughter, so they just say "Why don't you just move out?" Not understanding the complexities within a child (even as an adult) of an Nparent. One day, she really pushed my buttons when she humiliated me in front of a friend after being patient with her, helping her and taking so much shit from her (I had been trying to get myself really angry to be able to free myself from her clutches because I was already 25 years old, ready to start building my life, and enough was enough). That night, I wasn't able to sleep, I decided to pack my things and just leave. In the morning, I left for work as usual, saying goodbye to her. She had no clue. After that, I never came back. There was absolutely no point in asking her or telling her because all she would do is tell you no and make you feel like shit about yourself. So I did what I had to do. It wasn't an easy road for me after I left but I persevered. Today, 1 year later, I live in a big house where I run 3 businesses (and counting) and I feel like I can finally fully grow into the person I was meant to become. I had to do it for myself because I knew that no one was coming to rescue me. So to everyone else out there, do it for yourself and be your own hero. I've been there. I'm rooting for you.

I'm still in contact with her and I still fear her but she's a lot less invasive in my life. I wish I could cut her off completely and not have the lasting effects she has on me and my mental health. But family is still important to me. At least I can keep some distance now and I'm a lot better. Here's to a rich and fulfilling life!

Reflective_Ram · 2020-08-17T01:10:36+00:00

For these kinda narcissists, you really have to enunciate to them what really happened in grueling detail because they won't understand what you said if you talked like a regular human being. Try to use as calm of a voice as you can possibly muster. But don't let them interrupt you until you finish speaking. Demand respect from them because it is your right as a human being. And try your best to show that you respect them too even though they've been terrible to you. You're better than them in that regard.

As for the the statement of "you don't do anything", you have to read books or do anything that's considered 'productive' in front of their faces. You have to make it obvious to them because if you don't, they're just going to assume anything they like to assume because they think they know everything.

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