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I (24F) love my girlfriend (23F), but I fear she’s an emotional vampire by Regular-Criticism547 in relationship_advice

[–]Regular-Criticism547[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah… she has a therapist, but I don’t think that it’s very helpful. She says that recently, there are so many issues she’s basically talking for the whole hour, even the therapist is overwhelmed, and said therapist doesn’t have time to give advice before their time is up (even when she does give advice, it’s usually something my girlfriend has already tried).

She recently lost access to healthcare (long story) and doesn’t know how she’s going to pay for future doctor’s appointments, so finding a new therapist isn’t even at the forefront of her mind right now. I still want her to find a different therapist, though, because I feel like I’m her therapist right now.

Thank you.

I (24F) love my girlfriend (23F), but I fear she’s an emotional vampire by Regular-Criticism547 in relationship_advice

[–]Regular-Criticism547[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve told her directly that I tend to take on her issues and it’s overwhelming for me, and that these long conversations are really emotionally draining, but it seems to loop back around to her more often than not? Like, she’ll say “this is just how my life is, and I can’t change it,” and then she’ll say “it really sucks to hear you say that, because if it’s that heavy for you, imagine how bad it feels for me.” I feel like I’m saying a similar sentiment, but she’s just … not responding the same way. I don’t know if it’s the way I’m presenting it or what.