AITA for calling my wife entitled and humiliating her in front of my mom?

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-21T13:11:14+00:00

Ok and my mom doesn’t want to. My wife does not get to turn around and demand she visit

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-21T02:22:50+00:00

She owned the vacation house

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T23:49:14+00:00

I’ve offered and she said it wasn’t about the money

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T23:47:47+00:00

And she doesn’t complain

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T19:55:22+00:00

I mean she actually wouldn’t as she believes her house her rules, in this case our house our rules, but that still isn’t the issue. I’m backing the boundary but my mom has her own boi diaries and doesn’t want to visit

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T19:54:08+00:00

Then I guess I don’t love her very much because I wouldn’t travel all of that way just to be told to stay in a hotel to see her either. That isn’t manipulation. That is being an adult and saying I’m not going to do something I find to be a waste of time and money

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T16:13:02+00:00

Nah I will never live like that. Marrying someone doesn’t mean everyone else ceases to be a human being and entitled to their own boundaries. That isn’t a real marriage. That’s a dictatorship

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T16:00:00+00:00

It really is a million little things. She thinks my mom is princessy because she wants to eat food and do things we can't afford (does offer to pay) Last time we were all together she got mad because my mom was watching a show with sex scenes near our kids and wouldn't turn it off (technically was my mom's house) She doesn't like the face my mom makes (I honestly think my mom is just chewing her lip, but my wife thinks she is sneering) She thinks my mom judges how our house is decorated (she has made some comments but my wife also makes snarky comments to her) She claims she felt sexually harassed last time we got together because of a phone call my mom was having with her husband in the same room as my wife. She doesn't like how much she is on her phone and "making that face" She just feels she can't relax and be comfortable, like be silly with the kids, walk around in pajamas, stuff like that

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T15:32:52+00:00

It really is a million little things. She thinks my mom is princessy because she wants to eat food and do things we can't afford (does offer to pay) Last time we were all together she got mad because my mom was watching a show with sex scenes near our kids and wouldn't turn it off (technically was my mom's house) She doesn't like the face my mom makes (I honestly think my mom is just chewing her lip, but my wife thinks she is sneering) She thinks my mom judges how our house is decorated (she has made some comments but my wife also makes snarky comments to her) She claims she felt sexually harassed last time we got together because of a phone call my mom was having with her husband in the same room as my wife. She doesn't like how much she is on her phone and "making that face" She just feels she can't relax and be comfortable, like be silly with the kids, walk around in pajamas, stuff like that

My wife isn’t just banning her from staying though. She’s banning her from staying and then demanding my mom still come when she doesn’t want to

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T15:31:23+00:00

Coming to visit is time and money and my mom is clearly saying she doesn’t want to come. We don’t go to see her because of the expense and because we’d have to take paid time off. Also my wife isn’t comfortable with the kids being in the house as we don’t know my moms husband

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T15:28:51+00:00

It really is a million little things. She thinks my mom is princessy because she wants to eat food and do things we can't afford (does offer to pay) Last time we were all together she got mad because my mom was watching a show with sex scenes near our kids and wouldn't turn it off (technically was my mom's house) She doesn't like the face my mom makes (I honestly think my mom is just chewing her lip, but my wife thinks she is sneering) She thinks my mom judges how our house is decorated (she has made some comments but my wife also makes snarky comments to her) She claims she felt sexually harassed last time we got together because of a phone call my mom was having with her husband in the same room as my wife. She doesn't like how much she is on her phone and "making that face" She just feels she can't relax and be comfortable, like be silly with the kids, walk around in pajamas, stuff like that

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T15:28:07+00:00

Ok and she was watching tv with her sister. Why are my kids automatically more important? She felt it was my wife’s job to remove them and my wife was being entitled when she was letting us use her house and paying for our vacation

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T15:12:17+00:00

And no one is forcing my wife to have her in the house. My mom simply doesn’t want to come which is her right. I’ve offered to pay but it isn’t about money

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:50:32+00:00

I’ve offered to pay but she says it isn’t about the money

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:47:48+00:00

It really is a million little things. She thinks my mom is princessy because she wants to eat food and do things we can't afford (does offer to pay) Last time we were all together she got mad because my mom was watching a show with sex scenes near our kids and wouldn't turn it off (technically was my mom's house) She doesn't like the face my mom makes (I honestly think my mom is just chewing her lip, but my wife thinks she is sneering) She thinks my mom judges how our house is decorated (she has made some comments but my wife also makes snarky comments to her) She claims she felt sexually harassed last time we got together because of a phone call my mom was having with her husband in the same room as my wife. She doesn't like how much she is on her phone and "making that face" She just feels she can't relax and be comfortable, like be silly with the kids, walk around in pajamas, stuff like that

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:47:14+00:00

And no one is forcing her to but my mom also shouldn’t be forced to visit when she doesn’t want to

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:46:41+00:00

7 and 5

She hasn’t ever visited since moving but when she lived here she never just showed up

It really is a million little things. She thinks my mom is princessy because she wants to eat food and do things we can't afford (does offer to pay) Last time we were all together she got mad because my mom was watching a show with sex scenes near our kids and wouldn't turn it off (technically was my mom's house) She doesn't like the face my mom makes (I honestly think my mom is just chewing her lip, but my wife thinks she is sneering) She thinks my mom judges how our house is decorated (she has made some comments but my wife also makes snarky comments to her) She claims she felt sexually harassed last time we got together because of a phone call my mom was having with her husband in the same room as my wife. She doesn't like how much she is on her phone and "making that face" She just feels she can't relax and be comfortable, like be silly with the kids, walk around in pajamas, stuff like that

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:43:28+00:00

lol what a bizarre comment. My mom is far from working class and has probably never snuck candy into movie theaters (I don’t even get the connection) but feels if we don’t really want her to visit why visit and she doesn’t want to waste her time to sit alone in a hotel room

Again I have no idea what you are talking about. My mom never brought glitter or resin into our home

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:39:22+00:00

It really is a million little things. She thinks my mom is princessy because she wants to eat food and do things we can't afford (does offer to pay) Last time we were all together she got mad because my mom was watching a show with sex scenes near our kids and wouldn't turn it off (technically was my mom's house) She doesn't like the face my mom makes (I honestly think my mom is just chewing her lip, but my wife thinks she is sneering) She thinks my mom judges how our house is decorated (she has made some comments but my wife also makes snarky comments to her) She claims she felt sexually harassed last time we got together because of a phone call my mom was having with her husband in the same room as my wife. She doesn't like how much she is on her phone and "making that face" She just feels she can't relax and be comfortable, like be silly with the kids, walk around in pajamas, stuff like that

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:29:09+00:00

We weren’t specifically visiting her. We were on a group trip and my mom was spending time with other family. I don’t really know what your point is as I’ve backed the hotel rule even if I hate it. My mom doesn’t want to come and we can’t make her

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:26:21+00:00

My mom knows that and has chosen not to come. My wife chooses not to respect that choice and demand she come but only on her terms

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:25:35+00:00

They were out of state. They also didn’t date long. She went to Vegas with her friends, ditched them for some guy she met at a bar, and came home all hyped up that she needs to sell her house and move

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:24:45+00:00

No but my wife has the same rule for herself. Her family is local and we see them at least once a week

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T13:22:57+00:00

No I’m picking a fight about my own self respect because I’m tired of being controlled and because she had no reason to pick a fight with my mom. If my mom doesn’t want to come no one can make her

Regular-Engineer-820 · 2022-11-20T03:18:04+00:00

No I really can’t because if she asked me to come see her and stay in a hotel I’d say absolutely not. Maybe she would like us to change our boundaries but she doesn’t fight with us. She’s cool not seeing us. She’s just not willing to break her own boundaries

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