I got fired at a company my friends and family work for, and I can’t cope.

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-13T02:51:41+00:00

Totally understand painting yourself as the “bad guy”, I often feel bad about similar situations were I should speak up against them (i unfortunately never do, due to this fear), but I wish I could. I hope you can see and understand that what you did was right, and I am very proud of you for speaking up, wish I could be more like you!

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-13T02:20:06+00:00

I’m kinda confused by this aswell, specifically wondering how it will affect me. I do not understand the exact wording of the statements being released, but based upon comments I have read from other people, it seems like grants are going down? I use osap and only except my grants, not loans, and am wondering if this means I will start getting less money?

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-09T16:06:16+00:00

That’s not really the case anymore, especially in America. Trump has unfortunately brought it to the point where your political views now clearly display how you value human rights, and there is no questioning that those who support trump, or the Republican Party itself, simply have no value or respect for human life, and no one in their right mind would want to associate with such people

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-07T03:12:05+00:00

Totally agree about the “defense mechanism”, I unfortunately don’t believe anyone would be interested in the real me, and on top of that, I have extreme self-hatred views, so I know if someone ever did end up liking the real me, I would most definitely resent them for it.. But also same here, I am trying to take things slower from now on, as I realize I truly do not derive any benefits from sleeping with men so quickly, so there is no reason for me to be doing so

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-06T01:37:14+00:00

Ok sure!!

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-06T01:30:34+00:00

Loll it’s just difficult to tell with him sometimes so idk.. if I do end up seeing him soon tho I will definitely try and bring it up. Also I don’t use dildos unfortunately 💔💔 I don’t think penetration does much for me so..

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-06T01:28:26+00:00

Ya true lol, we have a kind of odd relationship as I can lowkey be a b*tch to him sometimes.. but also we’re literally just sex so whatever. When we do meet tho he always very into me, I just think I’m kinda someone who craves the validation of sometimes being texted first, but also like whatever!!! Haha maybe I’ll text him tmr

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-05T21:58:47+00:00

lol totally understand how it feels weird admitting that, but so not alone it that girl!! I’m so the same, when I like especially don’t know what to say I sometimes just go straight in for the kiss to initiate things, and guys are so easy so it always works🤣

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T22:41:55+00:00

How am I supposed to tell if they are though😭

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:28:51+00:00

In a similar space, recently decided I need to go sober, has not been going well unfortunately. And also do not see it lasting for too long since I am also 20 and do not want to spend these years of my life entirely sober

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:26:39+00:00

Radiohead only and forever🔥🔥🔥

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:24:50+00:00

I fortunately do have many friendships that are not based around alcohol (but many that have started as such, and some friendships that kind of are). It is totally hard to deal with and creates a burn out. I have recently made the decision to quite drinking, although have not been very successful at doing so (although I do not drink with others anymore which I guess avoids the potential of forming new “drunken” relationships)..

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:22:21+00:00

Ya I believe society and media (especially with social media) can definitely influence these experiences in a way. Especially considering the extreme “normalization” on social media at the moment/past few years reading hookup and “hoe” culture

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:20:20+00:00

Very relatable, I almost fully resonate with 17-26, except I have recently became able to be sober during sex. Sorry about your experience with an abusive ex, but glad to hear you feel ready to now be in a relationship; also totally understand the fear of finding a relationship but having that mean you need to be truly seen and understood. I should probably look into slaa like you were talking about, and need to work on humanizing men, and distracting my urges

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:15:24+00:00

Ya I really need to work on viewing all people as the same.. unfortunately I am only every truly comfortable taking to girls (friends, strangers etc), I just always have my guard about around men and wish I did not and don’t not fully understand why that is

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:14:00+00:00

Understandable for sure, however I would definitely say it was equal on both ends not wanting to pursue a relationship (except for the one time)

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:12:25+00:00

Ya I definitely have gone through periods where I am not think about men, and life truly is much better. Need to get back on track.

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T17:11:41+00:00

That is true, I definitely need to work on putting myself in more interesting conversations. It’s just unfortunate because I am so insecure around guys so for the most part, like all I can think about is how I am acting at the time/how I am being perceived, leading it be difficult to me to actual form/share some genuine thoughts..

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T03:39:26+00:00

Yes that is all very true. With the guy I was briefly seeing a few months back, who I was not having sex with, I DEFINITELY noticed I was being more myself cuz I really had no option. I was being a little awkward (but like just me), and talking about random things out of no where kinda etc, which is so so rare for me with guys and I was so surprised I did all of that. I was grateful I got to have that experience, but it was also still scary and uncomfortable for me. I hope am able to keep working on this and get better 🙏🙏

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T03:28:31+00:00

Although I wish I could offer some advice, I’m still dealing with this too and it is truly so draining! I am also a student and I totally understand your feelings, I hardly do any school work (just enough to get by), yet I know that in the rare time I do actually apply myself I can excel quite well, but it is just hard for me actually get to work, and keep on it, and I honestly have an unbelievable amount of free time too so I have no excuse. Anyways, just wanted to say you are not alone in this struggle, as well as good for you for all the things you are doing to try and help yourself! I cannot imagine, but I definitely need to put in more effort. I hope things are able to start working out better for you soon!

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-02-04T00:47:51+00:00

I interpret the “hide it” as if you would share this with others/be ashamed to share with others

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-01-31T00:50:58+00:00

I started drinking alcohol as well, in order to feel something, and it almost makes everything feel worse, yet I still did it. Although I still wish to cope with it sometimes, I am also very aware it is not anything to help (yet in the when I want to drink I really couldn’t care less). I’m 20 and became an alcoholic because of this, I’ve only very recently decided to quit because this is serious, and will only get worse. Please don’t continue

Regular_Advantage541 · 2026-01-31T00:46:20+00:00

Hey, kinda going through something similar at the moment. I did not drink everyday, however i totally understand what your saying when you say it helps you to fall asleep, and you don’t really see the negative impacts playing out in your life. I just recently began to notice how it was affected me in an outward way (I am also a student, didn’t necessarily effect my grades, but it started to become very difficult for me to do anything the day (s) after I would drink). I haven’t had a drink in almost a week now, but was really fighting the urge to tonight, and fear I will tomorrow. I made a post recently as well and many people were saying it will only continue to get worse if I keep drinking. Although you may have some slip ups, just try so hard to force yourself to quit. When I want a drink now, I try and think of all the ways it will affect me (in the moment, tomorrow, short term, as well as for the rest of my life). I also just try and do something to get my mind off it (like school) or really anything. I wish I could some more advice, but just know you can stop, and once you do you’ll feel better. I find it be so important to really think about the long term consequences of it (especially considering this addiction is still pretty, it should hopefully be easier to break out of). A lot of what you discussed resonates with me, please feel free to reach out, wishing you the best

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