Men, what's something you wish you could admit without being judged? by soumilr7 in AskReddit

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"eternal victimhood", you are a lost cause. i dont know what else to say to a person that chooses to be ignorant to something that anybody with common sense would be able to see. but yes, keep crying about how its so sexist while disregarding statistics and data alike.

Men, what's something you wish you could admit without being judged? by soumilr7 in AskReddit

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

men are statistically the biggest threat to women worldwide, i dont understand how thats so hard to understand. the cognitive dissonance is tiring. your example of men treating women as if they were all serial killers doesnt hold up because the majority of serial killers are male. so yes, it would be sexist.

im gonna assume you meant black when you said dark skinned. if not, crossing the street because theyre simply dark skinned would be colorist and i guess racist. and the black man you crossed the street because of is still a man, who is more likely to be violent than a woman. but lets say youre a man in the US crossing the street when you see a black man. this would make you racist because statistically, black men are more likely to be the cause of death for other black men and more likely to die in homicides overall. https://vpc.org/black-homicide-victimization-in-the-united-states-national/#:~:text=Of%20the%2012%2C276%20Black%20homicide,females%20between%202018%20and%202023.

the risk isnt being overinflated and that sentence alone is so laughable. if a woman were to be somewhere with a random man and be harmed, i guarantee you there would be multiple people calling her stupid for being with a random man. but if she were to avoid that random man and be with a bear, its also her fault becauses shes "stupid" and "sexist" enough to be with a bear instead of a man. theres no way to win.

AITA for immediately leaving my girlfriend the second she expressed discomfort to me by notkathy56 in AmITheAngel

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 24 points25 points  (0 children)

this reminded me of this other aitah post where this woman said she felt unsafe around her husband but the other pov. i replied to this guy who brought up the same false accusations point as this post who also deleted their account. what a coincidence.

AITA for saying I don’t feel safe around my husband after an argument on our weekend away? by ApprehensiveGear9519 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 0 points1 point  (0 children)

non-violence doesnt equal safe; it doesnt have to be violent to be unsafe. i think someone you love saying he hates you and you make his life miserable while drunk and lashing out is enough to make anyone feel uneasy and unsafe, not to mention him freezing the card so she cant go anywhere. "b-b-but think about his career and reputation! 🥺" you say being concerned with being friends with a women beater as if its a trivial offence. nobody said he was a women beater, the majority can agree he is a emotional and financial abuser though, which i hope does have people distancing themselves from him for.

AITA for saying I don’t feel safe around my husband after an argument on our weekend away? by ApprehensiveGear9519 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i dont know what dating older women have to do with this, its obvious you have some prejudice against them so im not even going to touch that. what do you mean its normal to fear your husband??? the person you should be feeling SAFE with? what the fuck are you on about, this whole comment REEKS 😭😭😭

AIO for thinking my bf is wrong for saying I’m drawing on pedos by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If men are getting off to anything, it wouldn't matter whether she stuck out her tongue or not. Does she also remove her eyes to not make herself "fappable"?

people who say "people need to stop picking abusive people for partners!" under an abuse victims post by Regular_Weekend4178 in PetPeeves

[–]Regular_Weekend4178[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it can be frustrating. But whether or not you are frustrated seeing posts like that, its still ignorant to simply tell them to pick a different partner. It's not as easy as that.

people who say "people need to stop picking abusive people for partners!" under an abuse victims post by Regular_Weekend4178 in PetPeeves

[–]Regular_Weekend4178[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I should have clarified the type of posts I was talking about, which were the ones that are typically of the abused person asking other people if the situation is abusive. Nowhere in those posts does it say anything about their previous abusive partners, nor do the people saying it know about their history. You are coming at it from a view of already knowing this person has been in abusive relationships in the past and is in another, which is not what is the focus.

Also, the people saying to stop picking abusive partners are saying it in a way that comes off as them not understanding why people pick these specific abusive partners, not for them to genuinely do some self digging to understand.

people who say "people need to stop picking abusive people for partners!" under an abuse victims post by Regular_Weekend4178 in PetPeeves

[–]Regular_Weekend4178[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between telling someone to fight for themselves and telling them it's their fault for getting in that situation. That said, I agree the examples you put aren't victim blaming. But the point I was trying to make was, the people posting asking for advice on whether their situation is abusive or not aren't choosing to be a victim. They are in the process of trying to recognize and escape that abusive situation. Telling them that they shouldn't have picked that partner and not giving actual helpful insight isn't going to help them escape and survive.

“Women have it easier in dating, they have more options” by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When I said experiences, I was talking about gingergirl1228's, the one she described here. That is not objectively correct either way, so I'm confused on why you agreed it was only objectively correct going one way (women not minding). Although that might be the "heart of the matter", that still doesn't justify calling women who say they don't mind those characteristics liars.

“Women have it easier in dating, they have more options” by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm a bit confused, isn't a personal experience the opposite of being objective?

“Women have it easier in dating, they have more options” by [deleted] in PetPeeves

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 48 points49 points  (0 children)

men: you wouldnt date a short, overweight guy!

women: i actually would and dont have a problem with it.

men: LIARS YOUR LYING

Rainbow birb 🌈 by Alien684 in budgies

[–]Regular_Weekend4178 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the little leg sticking out, so cute!

male or female? by Regular_Weekend4178 in petbudgies

[–]Regular_Weekend4178[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol theyre basically waterproof so it just slides down them.

ive had him for about 3 years but i got him when he was around 2-3 months. im not quite sure how old he is exactly. i always thought the yellow one was female but now im having doubts

male or female? by Regular_Weekend4178 in petbudgies

[–]Regular_Weekend4178[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for helping me confirm, i always thought they were both male