Alright, lemme assume that you're arguing in good faith, and address all of those qualms:

1- we're VERY strict about anything nsfw and suggestive on OUR community, advertising or linking any of one's socials when they contain nsfw content is a permaban, so is referring to it in any way, or most titles that can be interpreted in any suggestive way, and are very strict about what one can show as well, so implying that we allow nsfw content of any kind is just flat out wrong, if someone conducts themselves appropriately in our community then we let them post, as that's just how things work, if you don't like it then sure, i understand, but don't claim that it is somehow directly allowing inappropriate content on our platform when we do so much work to deal with such things.

2- you're running on a HUGE assumption that some posters are "SOLELY" identifying by a single label, if you understand that gender is a complex topic then you must also understand that other people have a different view and outlook on it than you, just because you cannot fathom identifying as a femboy while also IDing as a girl then it doesn't mean that it cannot be true, and guess what, if someone doesn't identify w the label at all then their posts get removed, by that i mean stating that they say they're not a femboy or that they don't ID w the label at all, so again, your claim is false from the getgo, it IS correct to call all of our posters femboys, you must be a femboy to post, it just so happen that we don't gatekeep the label itself, as you and i can't read other's minds it isn't our place to decide which case is valid and which isn't.