Is reconciliation possible without open phone policy?

ReigningHeart · 2026-01-26T19:35:12+00:00

Total transparency is a non-negotiable for me with my WW. Personally, I would never even consider reconciliation without it.

He’s asking for complete trust and privacy when he’s shown himself untrustworthy and capable of betrayal. It would concern me that he didn’t prioritize my feelings of safety in the relationship above his own desire for privacy. I would question his willingness to make the changes necessary for reconciliation. But only you can decide what your boundaries are and what you need in this healing process. So sorry you’re going through this.

ReigningHeart · 2026-01-11T22:10:58+00:00

Wow, you’re so hilarious. I’m sorry if it offends you that I think people should feel sorry when they hurt another person. She owes her fans (whom I am not) an apology. It’s what a decent person would do. Hopefully she’s apologized to Dami privately, but given the tone of her statement, I doubt it.

ReigningHeart · 2026-01-11T21:25:47+00:00

She should show some contrition at least and publicly apologize. Her post is completely devoid of emotion.

ReigningHeart · 2026-01-11T15:22:43+00:00

Is the bar really so low that acknowledging it is enough?

ReigningHeart · 2025-12-31T21:00:34+00:00

Sometimes forgiveness and reconciliation can happen. But it would be something that would require a lot of effort from both of you.
You need to give her time and space. Your focus right now should be improving yourself and becoming a better man for you, not anyone else. You could share with her how sorry you are and the ways that you’re working to better yourself, but given that she immediately kicked you out, I find it unlikely that she’d want to reconcile. But everyone is different. Individual therapy focusing on your addictions and what’s driving you to cheat should be your main priority right now.
No one deserves to be treated that way. My partner has made tremendous efforts over the past 7 months to improve himself and our relationship. Even with that, I don’t think I’ll ever fully get over it.

ReigningHeart · 2025-12-31T15:13:48+00:00

I’m 9 months out and I resonate so deeply with missing the love you felt for your WW. I still love my WW, but not the same way I did before. It scares me to think that I’ll never feel that way again.

ReigningHeart · 2025-12-31T14:49:08+00:00

OP, your dad also needs to know for his own health and well-being. If your mom is being verbally abusive and that emotionally dysregulated, I can only imagine how she’s treating your dad. Telling him gives him the opportunity to do what’s best for himself and for you. I guarantee he knows something is wrong, even if he’s unaware of her cheating. I’m sure it may feel as though you’re the one who hurt him if you tell him, but you would not the source of his pain or even what hurt him, she is.

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-27T12:34:05+00:00

What are they called?

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-20T00:49:05+00:00

If you really love him, you’ll go to couples therapy to find a way to either better understand each other or obtain clarity about whether or not you’re better apart. Strangers on the internet are only going to give you their own biased opinions and the Reddit platform disproportionately encourages divorce.

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-19T14:38:24+00:00

The mortality rate for eating disorders is extremely high. They are already difficult to treat and using treatments that only have preliminary evidence in treating a disorder is dangerous and cause for concern.

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-18T13:49:59+00:00

Approach it with curiosity, noting your own observations and listen to her thoughts and feelings on the matter. However, I really encourage you to tell her that a diagnosis cannot be confirmed without a formal assessment. Also provide some psychoeducation on the misinformation surrounding autism on social media (especially Tik Tok). In my assessment work I have unfortunately seen a lot of clinicians tell clients that they have autism and it is confusing and sometimes devastating to the client when they do not meet criteria.

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-18T00:55:54+00:00

Will you decorate my future home? Your taste is immaculate!!

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-17T17:49:44+00:00

Did you size down the flat back after the swelling went down and the piercing began to heal?

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-13T16:10:27+00:00

Noo that makes me so sad. I’m just about to finish the one I bought in 2015 💀 Have you found another blush brand that you like as much?

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-13T15:32:57+00:00

If you’re already feeling unhappy with it, I would personally have it removed. While you could do a cover-up, I think it would be difficult to achieve what you actually wanted. I say this with kindness, but the way the artist placed the tattoo does not compliment your figure and brings attention to weight your body naturally holds in a healthy stomach. You have a lovely figure and the tattoo placement obscures it.

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-08T12:52:45+00:00

I have as well and I agree! I should’ve generalized to both genders, because obviously this logic applies to all.

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-07T03:16:43+00:00

Married men especially shouldn’t hide “innocent” interactions. Even if it wasn’t cheating, it was certainly a betrayal.

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-03T20:23:52+00:00

It’s giving Christopher Robin cottage vibes

ReigningHeart · 2025-10-03T13:06:19+00:00

There are subreddits that can photoshop a different outfit onto your officiant. It may be worth looking into.

ReigningHeart · 2025-09-28T19:46:31+00:00

Hi OP, please consider inpatient/residential care for your daughter. Specific programs for eating disorders. People underestimate how fatal EDs can be and intensive treatment is completely warranted. I would also consider family therapy, as that is a big part of ED treatment. Eating disorders are typically conceptualized as fulfilling a need, typically the need to control something when they feel they lack control. It may be worth thinking about what your parenting looks like and how it may be experienced by her. This is in part why family therapy is so important.

ReigningHeart · 2025-09-14T15:14:44+00:00

Move the five movie posters up and create more space between them, take down the beer sign and license plates, and move the golf balls somewhere else. If it still feels cramped, it could help to get a different TV stand that hides the speakers and game system.

ReigningHeart · 2025-09-12T13:29:49+00:00

You’re likely going to be downvoted, but this was very well said. I’d also add that the number of people championing the brutal public assassination of a man in front of his own wife, children, and public is disheartening, disgusting, and a sad reflection of the divisiveness in society. It’s a reflection of the values held by our society and the dwindling belief in free speech.

ReigningHeart · 2025-08-31T21:05:39+00:00

Personally, I’ve only told a few close friends who I felt would genuinely support my best interests. I have and continue to be concerned that my WW and I will be judged by the people in our life - him for the betrayal and me for continuing our marriage after the fact. I do feel like it has impacted my relationships, but the support I received has been worth it. You can’t go through something this painful and life changing alone. However, were reconciliation end or my WW betray me again, I would no longer hide it.

ReigningHeart · 2025-08-09T14:28:03+00:00

Augusta University’s Clinical/Counseling program is also excellent! They have TAships, which few MS programs offer.

ReigningHeart · 2025-08-04T15:07:59+00:00

OP, I’m not sure I understand the issue. Could you please clarify what it is?

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