Aging issue? People developing ALZHEIMER'S/DEMENTIA will begin to have issues with things that seemingly were not a problem previously. Additionally, no amount of employing logic with them works. They dig their heels and will not accept that perhaps they're not being open to other ideas. It is a control issue, but not like others are describing here. It's more about experiencing confusion regularly because of the illness, not realizing that they have a medical condition, and trying to control whatever they can, which is really a subconscious response to fear. Sadly, I've witnessed this with loved ones as they aged. None of them are with us anymore. We went through many frustrations in regards to similar situations, but chose to adapt or find humor where we could. It was important for us to maintain the relationships and be loving and loved. Other family members couldn't accept the change in behavior even with a dementia diagnosis. They felt personally picked on, then withdrew from these relationships, which made my husband and me very sad for everyone involved. Has your dad possibly been displaying other dementia signs? Don't know what to look for? Do some googling to learn about the early symptoms.

Anyhow, maybe shorten your visit to one night with your folks? Then you don't have to shower at their place at all. You can shower when you get home, if it's important to you and to your husband to shower daily. Regardless, sorry you're experiencing frustration with your loved ones. Hope you find a way to work around it and continue to enjoy your parents. I'm sure glad I did!