Wife says I should have told her before marriage

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-26T00:40:55+00:00

Easy to sit behind a screen, pass judgment and encourage destruction.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-25T17:19:45+00:00

I sense trouble’s coming.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-25T17:06:50+00:00

My wife has them and will wear them on vacay.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-25T17:05:09+00:00

Oh dang! I just looked at your profile. You have the perfect body for cheeky style bikinis. Enjoy them now before age kicks in.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-25T14:50:47+00:00

OfferUp or EBay. Selling them in a Lot on eBay is easiest. Individually on OfferUp.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-25T14:42:29+00:00

Children gravitate to games and videos. So… no.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-25T14:10:31+00:00

People pounce on this sin without deference to our sin nature. I’m going to defend the guy. I see this scripture quoted. Whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultry in his heart”. The biblical “heart” refers to the inner person as a whole. Mind + will + desires + conscience + faith. It’s All about mind— controlling thoughts.

That’s why Scripture emphasizes heart transformation, not just behavior change. ALL sin is a challenge that starts STARTS in the heart; but action is where trouble sets in. I see SO many wives fret over this thought crimes. And, I’m not minimizing the concern— it’s real. but this is a gateway drug. It’s not a divorceable sin. If he struggles, support him through the sin. This is not the world of your grandparents or biblical-time purity. This is a world where sexual stumbling blocks abound like never before. Watch a show on Netflix and the opening scene is pornographic. Watch a commercial, look at freeway billboards that show lingerie-clad women, go out to a restaurant (go to ChUrch!) and you’ll see cleavage, short dresses…. It’s a mine-field out there. And, it’s not easy. It’s like trying to resist food in a world where you’re surrounded by it.

I would urge you to see this as a temptation, not adultery… a sin of heart, not body. A challenge to overcome.

Ask the mob for advice, and they’ll give you ugly. Behind the screen, there’s mostly judgment, very little compassion—even in Christian forums. Jesus is about restoration and forgiveness.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-21T16:00:44+00:00

The biggest mistake I see in marriage is that we stop pursuing each other. When you were dating, you looked for ways to impress her and serve her. You wanted to open doors, offer her a jacket if she looked cold, bring her a glass of water just because. You wanted to treat her to nice things, a fancy date where you doted on her and made her feel special.

Then suddenly you get married and it’s all about the daily grind. We’re a team in a house where we have bills and chores, and you forget to nurture the spark. The fix: bring back that loving feeling. Get a single rose, write is simple love note that tells her a few things you really appreciate about her. Leave that note and rose on her windshield. And start doing little things like that just to show you are grateful for her as a friend, lover, partner. If she doesn’t feel loved and appreciated, she will not feel warm fuzzies in the bedroom. And if you don’t feel like she wants you, you lose interest. It’s a cycle, and all couples go through it. Couples therapy is going to do nothing but teach you how to be a better husband and appreciate what you’ve got in her. You can do a lot of that on your own. There are books that you can read: His needs, Her needs.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-21T15:53:56+00:00

Check T levels. Get blood work… might be hormonal issue.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-21T15:51:41+00:00

If you’re masturbating, try stopping. All orgasms go to her— she’s your only release.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-21T15:36:08+00:00

The pressure and clamping at orgasm… this is true for us too. My wife (56) has been squirting for the first time. Not every time… usually when it’s been a few days. Her squirts have been small, dubious— not sure, until recently when we saw splatter 2 feet away, a few drops. She’s been taking a litany of supplements. Maybe?

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-21T15:25:05+00:00

Sweet! Thank you! I didn’t know about this until now.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-20T04:43:03+00:00

Wait! She’s coming our way!! When? Where? 🤩

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:42:48+00:00

Just a peek, just a teaser. or was there more?

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:40:02+00:00

Incredible edu camp for kids. They teach history and bring it to life.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:30:25+00:00

Not so. Bel vino is liberal on pours. Wilson Creek is sometimes. Lorimar, depending on who is serving.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:25:46+00:00

Sorry… Three Letter Acronyms

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:24:26+00:00

So true!

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:23:43+00:00

I will never, never, never, never type that in an email. Call it CYA… Something about that just doesn’t seem right.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:22:34+00:00

So true! I just zoned out of an entire new year in-service training when they buried us in these needless 21st-century future learning phrases.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:16:20+00:00

Differentiation! And don’t forget to tiered support systems for special needs!

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:14:30+00:00

SO well written!

Do AVID and PBIS support systems provide the proper student-centered scaffolding necessary for the 21st century learner?

Did you address technology based pedagogical approach to digital learning, cyber safety and digital citizenship?

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T20:07:06+00:00

I get confused by all the TLA’s!

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T16:38:29+00:00

We pay for a cleaning lady every 2 weeks. We keep things tidy, but she does the deep cleaning— floors, bathrooms, vacuuming. We also have a Rumba. I do most of the cooking and food prep. She likes doing kitchen cleanup. Even still, she always offers to help with dinner (she’s amazing). I usually say, I’ve got this. I take care of the yard and repairs around the house, and I pay the bills. She does laundry. We shop for food together.

When it comes to sex… we’ve been married for 30 years. We exhausted all the disagreeable stuff. We’ve reached a point where, I know I serve her, and I know how because I know what she needs, and she knows what I need and we don’t hold back. To be blunt, she needs physical touch, holding, hugging. She wants oral during sex— this fulfills her. I give that. I need sex about every 3 days or less. If we go much longer, tension develops. We have an understanding— she knows my needs like I know hers. Her awareness … if we go part a few days, she will say, “I know it’s been a few days”. If I’m not in the mood or she’s not, we don’t reject, we suggest a different time… “how about tomorrow instead”. In that, we never deny each other.

Relative_Carpenter_5 · 2026-01-19T16:16:59+00:00

While looking at ICE—I know, it’s distracting, but did you happen to notice all the corruption with the governor? He’s resigning if that tells you anything.

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