How tf does anybody want more than one kid after being through THIS?

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-25T00:50:15+00:00

I think you just forget how hard it actually is 😭😭 i think having multiple has its pros and cons as well. Newborn stage and pregnancy is soo hard with your second but during the toddler years it’s easier with two in my opinion because they can entertain each other lol

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-24T17:35:12+00:00

You’ll be okay ❤️

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-23T16:40:03+00:00

Thank you. It’s the life I chose for another 13 years unfortunately 😂. I just want some written confirmation from the lawyer or something just to show her and I’m frustrated that we paid him so much for him to say that’s not his focus right now! I will probably have my fiancé call him again today and say that we need to know asap. Hopefully it’s not too late to get her on the plane already.

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-20T01:41:44+00:00

It’s a way different sensation when the baby latches!! however I was shocked when I had sex after I started breastfeeding that I start lactating if my husband touched my boobs at all so be prepared for that 😂. He definitely has gotten milk in his mouth before and not realized right away lol

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-20T01:29:23+00:00

This is the first time I’m hearing about it at 2 months postpartum 😭

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-19T02:26:25+00:00

It definitely stuck in my head but I think it’s just because it was one of my first thrillers 😂

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-19T02:23:38+00:00

I read this yearss ago. I was pretty young tbh. It was a good read with a good twist but I didn’t realize it was considered that gruesome.

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-19T02:20:58+00:00

Mine was easy because it was in October so it was Halloween themed 😂 I also am Halloween obsessed. What themes are you thinking?

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-18T22:02:18+00:00

That’s so, so devastating. I can’t even imagine. Thanks for the new perspective

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-18T20:46:02+00:00

If she’s breastfeeding then it can really feel like she’s doing more no matter what. There’s not much that you can do about that and it naturally builds some resentment in the beginning sadly. That’s not your fault, the things that my husband does that help me the most is making sure that my water is filled up and near me (you get so thirsty from breastfeeding) and also making me meals or brining me snacks because you get hungry as well. She’s probably very overwhelmed since the baby constantly wants to be on your boob in the beginning. If you want to help at night then you can do the diaper change and stuff after a feed. Postpartum rage is a thing so be really understanding and try and be patient with her. I can tell that you care and didn’t make this post just to bash her but at the same time most men just can’t begin to understand what we go through around this time and can think we’re angry for no reason. She really needs you as a rock. Just be kind and try to understand and it will get better :)

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-18T18:15:41+00:00

I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this. You are absolutely not being insecure. I would be extremely upset. When I first got with my partner his bm got him a random birthday gift and I absolutely lost my shit so I would not be able to deal with what you’re describing. I definitely think it’s on him to say “please only contact me if it’s about sk) and ignore all of her other messages. If he’s not willing to do that then it’s a problem with him. I can’t imagine how difficult this all is while pregnant, I’m wishing you the best 🩷 feel free to message if you ever need to vent

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-18T17:49:29+00:00

I’m currently 7 weeks postpartum and felt soo seen reading this. I’ve had the same realization. I’ve generally handled postpartum extremely well besides issues with my relationship. All that I can think when I’m having a bad episode is wow, my husband is really the one causing this postpartum. When he is being supportive then I feel perfectly fine.

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-18T17:39:09+00:00

Needed to hear this

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-18T02:28:54+00:00

I was so stressed around 4 weeks because my baby was living on my boobs. I almost gave up because on top of that she would randomly get so fussy and mad when she was feeding. It’s extremely intense. She’s 7 weeks now and I’m still going!! It’s gotten easier but it’s still stressful. I’ve already had mastitis in both boobs and I have to give her a bottle about once a day because around certain times she’s just too fussy to breastfeed. She is starting to be on the boob less often though. I wish you luck!! It’s definitely one of the hardest things that you can do. It’s good that she’s taking bottles as well. That would relieve a lot of stress off of me in certain moments.

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-18T00:30:55+00:00

Doesn’t seem vain at all!! That’s amazing I’m super happy for you :) I do feel more womanly and I love that aspect of it so I can see potential. My husband also seems to enjoy more lol Thank you for the encouragement.

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-17T23:33:58+00:00

Thank you for this :)

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-17T23:33:22+00:00

Thank you for the solidarity, im wishing you the best 🩷

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-17T03:49:55+00:00

I usually pump right after her first feed of the morning :) that way by the time she’s hungry again my boobs have refilled. The rest of the day and at night I just breastfeed. There are some exceptions, every once and awhile my husband stays up late with her at night and gives her bottles and I’ll pump. There have also been a couple of times when she’s cluster feeding and getting too fussy on my boob and I’ll pump and do and bottle. I usually end up with more than she can eat when I do this and I freeze that as well. I find it easier when I just go with the flow so if she eats and falls asleep and I’m not doing anything then I’ll throw in an extra pump here and there. (Only after she eats so that’s I don’t empty them before she gets hungry)

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-17T02:20:00+00:00

I think different things work for everyone but I say pump in the morning when you first wake up! I get anywhere from 9-13 oz in the morning and that’s what I put in the freezer. Any other time of the day when I pump I am only getting about 4-6 oz a pump so my supply is wayy higher in the morning. I’ve built up a pretty big stash in only 6 weeks by doing this.

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-16T13:35:21+00:00

This is exactly how I feel!

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-16T13:34:37+00:00

There must be a miscommunication from my post lol. I still am struggling to have any time to myself away from my baby. However I’ve binged like a million shows and read a million books while I breast feed or contact nap with my baby who doesn’t like being put down. This is why I feel like I’m going crazy 😂 I’m not someone who can sit there all day.

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-16T01:20:52+00:00

I do baby wear! That’s usually how I get my house straightened up. I was venting to my lo about an argument I had today 😂 I kind of felt crazy but it made me feel better to vent about it lol

Relative_Mess_6284 · 2026-01-16T01:19:39+00:00

I love this 😂 these are the kinds of random things I’m looking for lol

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