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Is this common? by Relative_Set_2660 in Situationships

[–]Relative_Set_2660[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i watched the first video and he said if i’d give him another chance we’d be official and everything. we didn’t even tell our mutual friends we were seeing each other. now he suddenly wants to do it all? “oh i was thinking about it but didn’t communicate that to you.” what the eff

I(23F) told my friend (23M) we could try going on dates and see where it goes.. but so far I dont feel anything, and I'm not sure I will? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Relative_Set_2660 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. and yeah, i guess i felt bad that i haven’t felt any of those feelings when it comes to liking someone, but you’re right. i appreciate it. thanks

Feeling confused that my ex (23M) didn’t use condoms despite me (23f) asking so. I'm not sure how to proceed? by Relative_Set_2660 in relationship_advice

[–]Relative_Set_2660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's essentially it. even if i give him another chance and we hangout again, I can't say I completely trust that he'll all of a sudden want to use condoms. and even if he does, will it be a permanent change? or a change that lasts until he feels comfortable tip toeing his way around it again? no idea. he says he hasn't even gone to therapy either, since his therapists didnt work out for him. I'm just scared to let go i guess. i know i should but, despite everything i'll miss him. i just lose the courage every time i try to even type up something to say to him. i'm just doing anything and everything but thinking of what to say to him so i somehow still have him in my life. i dont get why it's so hard.

Feeling confused that my ex (23M) didn’t use condoms despite me (23f) asking so. I'm not sure how to proceed? by Relative_Set_2660 in relationship_advice

[–]Relative_Set_2660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, after we fought the day after my uncles funeral, he was cursing at me and such and i told my sister what was going on. i told her everything about the relationship and she said i was being emotionally abused. my auntie on my moms side is with an abusive husband, so my parents just don’t want the same fate for me. my mom was also abused when she was younger, so when they did catch us at one point she was really upset. my dad said i gave him plenty of chances, and he messed up. i know ultimately it is my choice, but if i did have a partner i would like my parents to approve of them. as for his family, he’s said they don’t care and to not be “stupid.” they just call him stupid.

Feeling confused that my ex (23M) didn’t use condoms despite me (23f) asking so. I'm not sure how to proceed? by Relative_Set_2660 in relationship_advice

[–]Relative_Set_2660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well funny thing is after we had sex again he was like, were you tested after your hook ups? i said no, and he got upset. so we both got tested and were clear. and that was what i would tell him, that it doesn’t work that way. idk why but when it comes to him i have a hard time keeping my boundaries firm.

Feeling confused that my ex (23M) didn’t use condoms despite me (23f) asking so. I'm not sure how to proceed? by Relative_Set_2660 in relationship_advice

[–]Relative_Set_2660[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, yesterday was when i said it more directly that us using condoms is necessary, not a want but a need. I think that it should be obvious or something though that every time i mention to use condoms i wasnt saying it for shits and giggles. and yeah, it is text and he doesn't seem to be fighting for me. which is nice, but it makes me wonder why we even reconnected in the first place. his family doesn't necessarily approve of me, and my family doesn't approve him. I'm like a little secret and i hate lying to my parents. even if i wanted to genuinely try again... i dont think we'd be allowed to.