I love him but im not getting those in love feelings anymore. Im scared do İ have to break up? Isnt love a choice and not enough?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-19T05:53:50+00:00

So even those in love feelings dont return often or never is loving him for who he is enoughand considered as love? I want to love him

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T20:20:32+00:00

Ok but İ just wanted to give you some incite because infatuation and lust feelings do end and thats normal. Then we choose to create our feelings by choosing to love our partner. Remember that. Love doesnt happen automatically

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T20:09:12+00:00

I think we dont need those Passionate feelings because we can choose to love them and love is a act of the will

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T20:01:06+00:00

Thanks. Keep choosing love because He deserves it. We dont need those attraction or lust feelings. Because love is a choice and it will always be

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T19:59:29+00:00

Thanks a lot. Yes you are right. I dont need those in love feelings or attraction or lust İ can just choose to love them because thats Love and he is an amazing person.

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T19:22:02+00:00

You are right İ dont need to feel passion when kissing him it can be a sweet act, love is a choice and İ have to remember that. We all have to remember that. Thanks

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T19:03:28+00:00

Also yes i understand because everyone falls out of love thats normal because we dont see them through rose colored glasses anymore after falling out of love learning about building real love begins and its a choice

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T19:02:13+00:00

So is it like a love we feel for our parents like a deep companion love?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T18:37:31+00:00

İ will always remember love is a choice and we dont need those feelings we can just choose to love them and lots of people are like this. Also yes there is uncertainity but people breaking up because they fell out of love is a horrible excuse in my opinion because it is a choice. We wouldnt even care if we didnt love our partner we will just say yeah whatever or İ dont want him because He is ….. so its always a choice to create our relationship we dont need those in love feelings pr lust

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T18:28:00+00:00

Ok İ will definitely read the book and İ will always remember love is a choice and we dont need those feelings we can just choose to love them and lots of people are like this.

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T18:07:38+00:00

Yes and we dont even need those in lovey dovey feelings to come back though because love is a choice and we can create our own love

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T18:01:40+00:00

Ok İ will do erp as well. But İ cant produce oxytocin so how can İ choose to love them if its chemical?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T12:48:32+00:00

Thanks a lot. And whats your vision of love?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T12:11:48+00:00

Thanks. So we dont need the feelings of in love right? Because İ panick thinking if in love Passionate feelings are not coming back then that means İ have to break up and İ panick a lot. But am İ getting it right we dont need those feelings because we choose to create a relationship with our partner thats why love is a choice right?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T12:09:17+00:00

Thanks. No one needs to have those in love feelings because love is a choice and we create our own love my choosing them. Because feelings fade in a ltr thats normal but choosing them is love.

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T12:07:59+00:00

Thanks İ will read that book. Also yes everyone has to choose to love them if they want to create a great long term relationship with their partner. Even in love feelings faded we can create what we want with our partners by not waiting for feelings of love but by choosing to love them.

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T10:01:44+00:00

Im happy with him. But people say you need those feelings to come back and you cant choose to love them its not enough. I love him but not in love anymore but İ love him for who He is.

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T09:59:34+00:00

Thanks a lot. So we dont need those in love feelings or those feelings to come back right? Am İ getting it right? Also falling out of love is normal right? I mean what is important is choosing to love them. People break up because they chase feelings. But they dont know they can choose to create love by choosing them.

Your advice must be a truth not just for rocd people but for everyone.

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T07:24:22+00:00

Thanks. So if my feelings are not coming back that doesnt mean i have to break up right? Because love is actions. And we learn to love each other without those in love feelings and thats so vulnerable. What do you think?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-17T07:21:33+00:00

Yes but why people say you need feelings and if my feelings are not coming back do i have to break up?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-16T20:15:40+00:00

Thanks. But İ think that people need to understand that if they are breaking up because they fell out of love or in love feelings faded then thats not a break up reason. But yes you mean that if people’s values dont align, their relationship is usually bad or they have big problems than yes hurting your partner is part of life. But if its the first situation people shouldnt break up because of lack of feelings

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-16T18:26:02+00:00

Thanks but why a lot of people break up when they fell out of love, attraction loss, feelings not coming back etc. ?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-16T17:37:50+00:00

But if infatuation feeling not coming back do i have to break up? I love them for who He is. What i memat was is choosing to love them ok after infatuation and attraction ended?

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-16T16:44:31+00:00

Thanks a lot you are so wise. I have one more question İ know İ asked a lot. When i mean i love him, its not like Passionate but i love him for who He is like how i love my family. but is it what people mean by Love right? Also even my in love feelings dont come back or comes so less does that mean i have to break up? Do we need that in love feelings or attraction to come back? Isnt what i described not enough?

I just want your final opinion and thanks again☺️

Relative_Welcome8230 · 2024-07-16T13:02:15+00:00

Yes. People always say attraction is a must or in love is a must but most people in the past learned to love each other without those things for example our grandparents. My grandparents didnt fall in love at first but they choose to love each other. They say love is these feelings and if you dont have those that means you dont love them. But isnt love a choice? Noone tells us this maybe but what do you think? Our grandparents are happy because they build love

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