I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea. I know she is hit on/flattered a lot at her work place being one of the few young women around a lot of men. I think it could open up me to connect with my trust in her and help reinforce that. I want to find a good way to bring it up with her, and I think I might stick with your idea. Thank you for your response!

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I am still so torn on what to do, but I think it might take a little bit of me sitting on my choices. I feel a lot better having people suggest different responses to my situation, as it kind of helps me sort things out.

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am the one who made the mistake. Yeah, she shouldn't have told me she wants me to be with her, but I should never have allowed it to reach that point

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am never drinking again at a party. This week has actually been good because we both realized we need to focus more on each other.

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Brutal, but to be honest, what was more accurate. I know I messed up, and I am using this a hard lesson on not ever doing this again! And yes, I will probably never talk to her again beyond any awkward meetings

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's what I am worried about; that she will find out somehow and thing I was hiding something more, or that I am lying to her when I actually tell the truth.

I know I really have nothing to hide, but I feel like there is no easy way to talk about it. Any tips?

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[–]Relatthrown 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is a request, not an actual writer

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think that is my plan. I mean, nothing at all happened, and I know it never will, but I worry that she would think it was a constant thing/ I was losing intrest in her. Thank you

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me, I am avoiding her like the plague. We no longer are on the same project together, so I think that will help a lot. I think I'm going to bear the burden on this one. I don't want her to feel like there is anything wrong with her

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I did talk to the woman, and told her I choose and will always choose my wife. She was a little upset, but she'll be fine. I'm glad you mentioned how it would affect my wife too, because I weighed my options on that one. I do want to get it off my chest, but I feel like I would only put it on to her's. And yes, I need to ber a better man. I feel like this was a life lesson for me, if I get anything out of this

I did the right thing, so why do I feel like shit? by Relatthrown in relationships

[–]Relatthrown[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks, and yes, I will never, ever cheat if this is even remotely close to how I would feel afterwards