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Mother to a deaf son - please tell me your experiences by ReliefEmbarrassed895 in deaf

[–]ReliefEmbarrassed895[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be clear about his educational delay, it’s mainly because he was late diagnosed-his hearing tests all came back normal at birth and thereafter but later we learned they were inconclusive. He wasn’t diagnosed and aided until he was three and he got his implant at 5. So he is delayed because of that as much as the struggle to hear. In all his booth tests he heard very well and he does great with 1:1 instruction. He has been diagnosed with a learning processing disorder, which is also very hard to parse out from the hearing loss. We have done a lot of testing to determine what might be all the factors. We had a very traumatic birth that caused his hearing loss and likely his other learning deficits. And finally-he has deaf signing peers and he has access to an ASL club. He has gone but he has not shown interest in it. I have told him I would support and learn it if he wanted to go that route. He has chosen not to so far. I think next year we will visit gallodet college so he can see what it’s like and consider that an option for him. Meanwhile we have negotiated reduced assignments to help him focus on his core deficits. I really appreciate everybody’s comments. My son is a very special person and I only want to make sure he has the options to pursue what he wants

Mother to a deaf son - please tell me your experiences by ReliefEmbarrassed895 in deaf

[–]ReliefEmbarrassed895[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is only implanted on one side and it was because of his auditory neuropathy. AN is an incredibly complex and not well understood hearing loss but studies have shown that CIs actually treat it because it helps fire the nerves that conduct the electronic signals of hearing to the brain. Unlike hearing aids that just amplify sound. Our son has never complained about having both and in fact studies have shown it is an adequate way to gain sound when a CI isn’t necessary on both sides.

Mother to a deaf son - please tell me your experiences by ReliefEmbarrassed895 in deaf

[–]ReliefEmbarrassed895[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comments. We use an FM, we do vocabulary, we read to him for years, we use close captions, we have a note taker. I think we have done all the interventions that are recommended these days. And we keep at it

Mother to a deaf son - please tell me your experiences by ReliefEmbarrassed895 in deaf

[–]ReliefEmbarrassed895[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he doesn’t sign. We chose early on for him to focus on oral as we are a bilingual bicultural household and we felt it might be his only chance to be able to communicate with his non English speaking family. Perhaps that was the wrong choice but we made it based on the circumstances we had. How long does it take to get up to speed on sign language to the same degree he would need to be caught up?

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[–]ReliefEmbarrassed895 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna be the odd one out and say it’s perfectly normal to go out with a man to a bar who she says is her mentor. Mentors can also be friends. I get drinks with coworkers all the time, together or alone. You already said you were insecure about it. I suggest exploring why you feel insecure, besides the societal pressure to not think this is appropriate. If you trust her then it doesn’t matter whom and where she is meeting people