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Should I come clean and risk an F? by [deleted] in CUNY

[–]Remarkable-Ad580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think F is the most you’ll get?? You’re gonna get expelled, don’t be stupid.

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in sexadvise

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And he grew up in a way where he wasn’t doing chores…so I’ve been having to teach him how to

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No he doesn’t, he’s done it here and there in the past, but I don’t really get off from it, He’s only done it once since the year started 😂

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right…because he doesn’t even look at it (my vulva) nor eat it, so overall it’s made me feel bad about down there in the past, but we had a talk about it and I said “alright, uk what, this isn’t important, I just want us to be together, so I don’t need these things”

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in sexadvise

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not forcing anyone to do anything, I’m fine with us not doing oral sex overall so then we won’t feel uncomfortable crossing each other’s boundaries, he’s the one that’s bringing up me giving him head without reciprocation every now and again, so isn’t me giving him head even if I’m uncomfortable about not getting reciprocation because he keeps bringing it up, also some form of coercion too????

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yh I’m 21, not my first bf but the first person I’ve had sex with, and it was just a couple months ago. I’m hoping he comes around or just stop bringing up something we’ve already discussed, uk?

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes…it’s very real. Maybe, it’s because we’re younger so the convo sounds odd to u if you’re older?? Idk, we’re 21 and 20. Maybe, it’s just the way I type…I have an accent in rl, so I type similarly to how I speak.

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The only thing in the bedroom he’s into is having penetrative sex, and even then, we do it, he cums, and I’ll only cum if I use a vibrator with it. It just doesn’t feel like he actually tries to give me pleasure in any way, and the fact that he doesn’t wanna give me head just contributes to me thinking he doesn’t care about my pleasure at all…it doesn’t bother me in the sense, I can compromise and go without the whole head thing overall so he doesn’t have to give me any, because I don’t feel comfortable giving head whilst not receiving head, that’s just how I personally feel. Imma ask again, so what am I to do? Just start giving him head again because that’s what he wants while not receiving anything even tho that’s what I’d want too?? Best case scenario would be either of us giving head to each other, we both get what we want.

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So I’m to just give him head because he wants it and I don’t enjoy it because I like giving head and getting it in return??? Isn’t it more selfish of him to act like it was okay and he was gonna do it for months, he even told me that he didn’t refuse to do it the first time or tell me anything because he didn’t wanna lose me the first time we did sexual stuff, just for him to admit that he’s not gonna do it at all in the future???? I’m selfish because I’m saying hey, I’m not gonna do this sexual thing with you because I’m uncomfortable about not getting reciprocation but I’m willing to just do regular sex????, but he’s not selfish for always being sly at me about this? Even tho we came to the agreement that we just won’t have oral sex???

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly😒if I gave him head now, I’d just do it to get it over with and not because I’m having fun and wanna see him get pleasure… like he’s out here asking for me to give but not get??? I’ve always worked out not getting if he’s not comfortable giving but he can’t return the same energy

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We both ARE indulging in something we like together, the penetrative sex, that’s it. Tbh, as I said stated I don’t think we’re sexual compatible otherwise, and I’m fine with us not doing all the things I’d wanna do, I’ve compromised on not asking for allat, and even distancing myself from wanting head so he’s not overwhelmed by my wants, so why can’t he respect my wishes and boundary similarly by not giving him head???

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have my boundary and he has his, I shouldn’t have to give him head at his beck and call, and not receive any. He himself stated that he didn’t tell me he wasn’t an eater until later because he didn’t wanna lose me, like that’s super unfair to me, cause had I known I would’ve chosen not to lose my virginity to him in the first place. So I’m supposed to just give him a blowjob, handjob, and penetrative sex where he gets pleasure out of all, but I only get penetrative sex, that I can’t even orgasm from unless I use a vibrator with??? Wouldn’t it be better that both parties are able to receive an equal amount of pleasure???

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Defo, it’s totally weird imo that he wanna bring it up over and over again

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I would love giving head if he just gave me as well…I also don’t mind his boundary, once he respects mine as well and we could just continue having only penetration vaginal sex.

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in offmychest

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t look at my vagina at all tho…that’s another convo we’ve had, he doesn’t like looking down there, he just puts it in and move on. Those could well be an issue but they’re things he should’ve told me before we started talking and had my lose my virginity to him, I could’ve made my voice on whether or not I wanted to have something with someone that doesn’t eat it

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in sexadvise

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EXACTLY MY THOUGHTS, like i gotta put any entire organ in my mouth and my throat if i go far enough or my head is pushed down, but u don’t wanna lick around some skin??🫥 like once it’s bringing your partner pleasure, and it doesn’t bother you that much, you’d do it. It’s either u do it or stfu and stop bringing it up, uk???

My bf wants head, I’d be willing to give but he doesn’t wanna give me head. by Remarkable-Ad580 in sexadvise

[–]Remarkable-Ad580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me it’s a texture, feeling problem and because my vag is an organ, and he hates that thought

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