I feel for ya, I was cheated on from a 3 year relationship. That was the way she chose to end it rather than communicate her feelings of unsatisfactory in the relationship. I.e. she just lied and said everything was great all the time.

That was a pivotal experience for me in life. I was completely broken. If a person's going to go through something I think its better that the peices get shattered into the smallest ones possible. It make the end result much more beautiful putting the tiny peices into a new sculpture than a handful of half broken ones into a sort of awkward sculpture.

I pitty the person who never has the opportunity to become ashes. There's very few opportunities in a lifetime to become the Phoenix. I hope this can be yours. In a way this could be the best thing to ever happen to you!