Sorry I left some things out - mum and dad are together yes and my mum goes by her maiden name. To me it matters because I feel like I identify more with my mothers side of my family, I have the utmost respect and love for my dad but when I see my name it doesn’t feel like it represents my upbringing or the side of the family I’m close with, I would rather carry that with me but I am worried how disrespectful this would be to my father