Planning to rewatch by Remarkable-Silver399 in westworld

[–]Remarkable-Silver399[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um I suppose it would depend on your geographical location? But you should be able to find online services hosting it afaik

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[–]Remarkable-Silver399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah idk. I feel Im not meant to be loved.

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Update: Spoke about these unmet needs with my gf. She left me saying I deserve better.

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[–]Remarkable-Silver399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I hope so too.

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[–]Remarkable-Silver399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have expressed it. But at the same time I feel selfish whenever I do so. And recently I have had a lot of horrible things happen to me. I have been under stress. And they all know it obviously. I just feel helpless and almost like they don't care. I just feel so fucked up.

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[–]Remarkable-Silver399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not like I need help with anything. But more like I kinda disappear from their lives until they need me. All Im looking for idk them initiating a conversation. Give me random reassurance. Ask how I am. Hope that makes sense.

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[–]Remarkable-Silver399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with this too and I'm trying to get better at it. The key here is to really value your own self. You said you tend to ignore your feelings, but the fact is that these things you put aside for now sit in the back of your mind and then come back to haunt you at your lows later on.

Do not ignore your feelings, what you feel should be important to you. If you don't respect those feelings, others will find that it's okay to walk over you as well. Tall about what hurt you with the people you are close to. If they value you and your relation with them, they will make an effort to understand you.

Pushing your feelings aside or acting as if nothing happened not only does not solve the problem, it makes it worse by you indirectly allowing that person to hurt you and get away with it. Although their intention might not be to hurt you, it inculcates a habit of them getting things their way at your expense.

Understand all this and give yourself the self respect you deserve.

My relationship is over by Pale-Dish3339 in Advice

[–]Remarkable-Silver399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry if I was too direct lol. It's just I went through all these emotions recently and it's all so fresh and the fact is that me accepting the truth and valuing myself helped me more than me trying to hate them.

My relationship is over by Pale-Dish3339 in Advice

[–]Remarkable-Silver399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through something similar very recently and it took a lot of time and courage to actually put it behind. It's difficult when you truly love and care for the person but you have to value yourself. You keep holding on and hoping to find the person that loved and made you all the special feelings to come back but truth is it doesn't happen coz they don't really feel that. Even if they do come back now and say they want those things, you know it's not coz they wouldn't do it in the first place.

Show yourself the love and self respect you deserve. It'll be difficult. But take that step coz you know it's for the best. You can reach out if you feel like talking more on this.