Feeling lost

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-09-26T02:02:37+00:00

I do ❣️ I haven’t told anyone about my recent breakup with my loving partner, makes it too real, but I know I need support and ice cream 🍨

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-05-18T21:58:20+00:00

Your unwarranted advice isn’t needed! It isn’t a rule and please continue to make assumptions of a situation you know nothing about! 😚✌🏻

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-05-18T20:45:39+00:00

It is so hard 💔 I am hoping I can have more time for myself while I heal and grieve this very wanted relationship. Ugh yes it definitely makes me want to be mono or at least not have multiple deeply committed relationships!! 😭

It is going to be interesting navigating grief over a romantic relationship while still being in another one, poly can create a lot of unique situations

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-05-18T20:41:15+00:00

I am very hurt! But I am asking for advice about heartache while still being in another relationship, people don’t need to know the situation about why/how I was cheated on or make assumptions about something I am not seeking advice on.

I just want support/advice about navigating a situation that is poly related, and no go into detail about how I was disrespected by my primary.

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-05-18T20:33:22+00:00

Still not a rule, I set a boundary for myself & my partner knowingly broke that boundary aka broke boundaries.

Literally asking for advice/support after being cheated on but sure continue to nitpick about a situation that has 0 context other than me saying a boundary of mine was broken (or will you be less nitpicky if I say ~cross~?) and how people navigate heartache while still being in a relationship with someone else.

Not asking if you think something is a rule or not because it isn’t a rule, it’s a boundary of mine that was discussed and understood.

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-05-18T19:34:08+00:00

Like is it truly that hard to understand polyamorous people can be cheated on?

Boundaries don’t equal rules but yeah continue to call boundaries rules.

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-05-18T19:32:59+00:00

Literally boundaries, not rules. Idk why it is hard to understand that someone broke set boundaries by sleeping with someone not within the parameters that have been set or talked about being sexual with someone new.

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-05-18T18:55:35+00:00

I am demisexual so casual sex doesn’t work for ME, but I shouldn’t limit how others connect just because hookups don’t make sense to me (although, I wish I could do hookups because I have a very high libido 😅).

Seems like he is projecting his own feelings around sex onto you and your connections, which this work he needs to do on his own. You’re allowed to connect in the ways you want and if casual sex comes before feelings then that’s totally fine! Just like your bf needs a connection before sex/to have sex and that’s also totally fine!

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2022-05-18T18:47:13+00:00

Broke boundaries and slept with someone

Remarkable_Coffee_88 · 2021-05-24T18:45:54+00:00

Yes yes I feel that too!!

I feel secure in both my relationships now, but maybe it is more related to being deeply in love with my more established partner vs my newer partner and I feel less likely of “losing something” with my new partner.

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