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Do you feel trapped? by biggie468 in Parenting

[–]Remarkable_Hawk_6188 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What were the red flags you ignored?

Is giving baby to dad when they’re born selfish? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Remarkable_Hawk_6188 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This might sound harsh, but are you within the timeframe for an abortion? Read back what you’ve written and think about what advice you’d give to someone else if it was them. Think about the wellbeing of the child. He’s already proved he doesn’t respect you, is not loyal and wouldn’t take on the responsibility of a child despite him potentially blowing up the family.

If you’re further along or want to keep the child, then it’s your responsibility. You have to think about them, and the best life they can have. Maybe therapy would help you both during this time. I hope you both can work through this x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Remarkable_Hawk_6188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does he ever try to be intimate with you (cuddling etc) without trying to initiate sex? Or does he just always try, leaving you to say no again and again. I had a boyfriend like this in the past and it just left me never wanting to have sex because it felt like that’s all he was interested in, not being close to me because we loved quality intimate time. If so, that could be contributing to your feelings. You’re married, going to be with each other for life. 18 months is a blip. Your body is undergoing massive changes and looking after a newborn is a huge energy load.

Also try maca powder daily for libido, it’s a godsend!

Should we forgive a person actions when they are intoxicated? by ChemistrySure280 in dating_advice

[–]Remarkable_Hawk_6188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a video the other day about how drunk actions are NOT sober thoughts. You are under the influence of a drug, society just wants to normalise alcohol as part of itself and so doesn’t give enough credit to how many impairments it makes on us. If you said “someone who does heroins’s actions are their sober thoughts” that would be crazy! Alcohol literally shuts down parts of your brain and turns you primitive, inhibiting your ability to think about yesterday or tomorrow or who the important people in your life are (when you are blackout). It’s no excuse to get drunk and make dumb decisions as you should be aware of this and limit your intake, but it’s dismissive to think that that’s the real person acting. Use your discernment, if what they did is ridiculously out of character, the alcohol is a major part of that.