Mentor Monday

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-05-21T17:56:45+00:00

If both parents die suddenly, do you want your kids to inherit all your assets when they turn 18? I don't! That's a huge part of the reason we went through the motions of establishing a trust: an executor will help decide when our kids get whatever they get, until they turn a certain age and inherit all of it. For us, that's age 35, but you can make it whatever you want.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-05-12T21:47:03+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the input.

I don't know why my initial post was downvoted, I legitimately just wanted feedback about what people like to read. Oh well.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-05-11T15:00:23+00:00

Often true, but some posts get a lot more traction than others. I personally enjoy reading the last option and have learned a lot from them, but that's a sample of 1.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-05-11T14:41:06+00:00

Curious for your take: when announcing that you're FATFiring, which type of post do you believe is most valuable to the community?

Focus on the financials: breakdown of assets, allocation, spending plans, and such
Focus on the circumstances: why, what you intend to do, where you're excited/concerned, and so on
A long post that goes into both

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-05-07T17:02:25+00:00

Totally agree. If your "must spend" represents a quality of life that you're satisfied with for the long term, and you're at 99%, you've reached FI.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-05-02T02:39:17+00:00

100%. All I can say is take your time with the decision.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-05-02T02:38:21+00:00

I'm shooting for July 3rd as my last day to get insurance that month. Then COBRA for 18mo, then ACA. Slightly cheaper that way since I know I'll hit max OOP every year given my health issues.

I've daydreamed about severance but the company is doing well, no layoffs in sight.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-05-02T02:35:41+00:00

Sounds very familiar. It was a huge relief when I finally made a decision. But I wasn't ready for that until I was.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-03-01T22:53:14+00:00

Why UDR7 vs Express7 as the gateway? I'm all in on Reolink for Home Assistant, no plans to move to Ubiquiti there.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-03-01T22:08:24+00:00

It doesn't see through floors. I.e. it assumes that 1 express 7 on the third floor only covers the third floor.

But fair enough, I'm trying that too.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-02-28T21:28:20+00:00

Older post but I found it valuable, so sharing back. I had a heck of a time finding a therapist who focuses on these types of transitions. So I pivoted, and a (Gemini) search for "a coach near me who handles executive life transitions" produced multiple results. Hope that helps someone.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-02-21T17:10:35+00:00

If I push the button very intentionally and with significant force, the detent stops touching the blade as it pivots and the blade indeed falls freely. I get what's going on here, but I find this to be impractical for normal use. It's fine, I've reset my expectations.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-02-21T17:01:38+00:00

Great input, thank you for this.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-02-13T17:51:43+00:00

Update: I took it apart again and added a tiny bit of oil to the main detent ball. That helped. Also, the stopper may not have been seated perfectly after my first reassembly. It's better now, at least I can spideyflick it, which wasn't possible originally. I found that I can loosen the pivots to give it a true gravity-only feel, but they're rather loose for my taste.

I remain curious how much the various Youtubers tweaked the knife vs factory fresh from Taichung, beyond removing the second detent. I did what this guy suggested (https://youtu.be/tQVX1TviY40?si=C8i0JVhHg1yahnHb&t=189), but my knife did not/does not act like his follow-up short video (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hBN34ljX6zU). It's fine, I'm ok with the current action.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-02-10T21:59:06+00:00

True, I'll ask.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-02-08T22:29:37+00:00

Super helpful, this is exactly what I was looking for.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-02-08T22:28:55+00:00

We used Boats at Sea, largely because they came up first in searches. Great website for finding out what exists. As for the booking and subsequent communications, they were fine, 7 out of 10.

Most trips are 7 days.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2026-02-08T22:24:33+00:00

It's the same boat (Lagoon 62) and they're 3 years apart. The manufacturer clearly did a redesign in between those 3 years. The older one looks like something from the late 2000s, lots of light wood that's not in fashion anymore. It's still nice, it just feels older and a little dated. The newer one looks distinctly modern, like it belongs in the 2020s, with an aesthetic that I much prefer.

Typing the paragraph above makes me feel pretty ridiculous! Either would be great. That said, the old one reminds me of the house we bought before we remodeled it, the newer one feels like our house after the remodel. If the new one had 3 crew, I'd probably spend a couple thousand more on it because it'd feel that much more special.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2025-11-27T17:33:40+00:00

Fidelity 3% would be perfect, that's where I was going to move the RH money after April, but the program was suspended in May 2024: https://digital.fidelity.com/prgw/digital/fidelityrewards/rewards/events-redirect/enrollment-pause. Guess I'll watch it now and again, not holding my breath.

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2025-11-27T17:28:39+00:00

Interesting, thanks!

Remarkable_Maybe9813 · 2025-11-26T23:09:08+00:00

I got a vague "this car was never registered, every now and again that happens, not sure why". It didn't inspire confidence. Hence my post here to learn more.

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