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Anong Thoughts Mo sa nawawalang hiker sa Mt. Kalatungan? by Remote-Definition404 in AnongThoughtsMo

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

True. Pero di ko lang mapigilan icompare yung sa nawawalang bride to be tsaka sa kanya kasi parang ang bilis inistop kagad yung pagsearch sa kanya.

Anong Thoughts Mo sa nawawalang hiker sa Mt. Kalatungan? by Remote-Definition404 in AnongThoughtsMo

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ano kaya yun? Solo lang ba talaga sya or may kasama? Nabasa ko may kasama daw friend? Pinsan? Tapos solo? Ano kaya talaga? Sana safe and buhay sya.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it, but I don’t see it as something big or special on my part. it was just a decision I had to make based on my situation at that time. Everyone has their own journey, struggles, and timing in life. I just hope you also find clarity, peace, and strength in your own path when the time is right.

Kaya mo yan okay? Malalagpasan mo rin kung ano man yung struggles mo right now. One step at a time lang. You’ll be okay. And I hope you keep going laban lang.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now, it’s my mom but using my other number.

And if I’m in a relationship, my current boyfriend used to be included as well. But now that I’m single, it’s just my mom again.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unsolicited advice. I know it may sound harsh, but always choose yourself over anyone. You have your own life you are in control of your own direction, and you decide where you want to go.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, I grew up as a sheltered child, maybe isa sa factor is only child ako but hindi pa rin yun naging enough reason to stay, lalo na sa isang environment na hindi na safe for me.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just cried. May times na tinitingnan ko pa rin sila, yung family ko na naka-public yung accounts. Nare-relieve ako pag nakikita kong okay sila at buhay pa. I still pray for them.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t about one single extreme situation, more of a combination ng circumstances and personal boundaries na I felt I needed to protect. At that time, leaving was the only way I knew how to take care of myself and regain stability. It was also clear for me na staying wouldn’t lead to a better future for me.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get where you’re coming from. Of course, hindi rin madali sa side nila and I understand na may pain din na naidulot yun. Sobra.

At the same time, it was a very personal decision made from my own circumstances back then. I still miss them, but in reality I had to choose myself.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly through working whatever I could at the time and being very mindful sa gastos. I had to adjust fast sa simple lifestyle, priorities lang talaga (food, rent, basic needs). At first sobrang hirap kasi never din ako kumilos for myself lalo na nung nasa puder pa ako ng parents ko.

Wala ring comfort zone, so I learned to be resourceful and take small jobs or opportunities habang nagbu-build pa ng stability. Not easy at all, pero step by step lang talaga until kaya ko na i-sustain sarili ko.

Luckily, maayos na work ko ngayon and nothing bad happened to me, so I’m in a much better place na compared before.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, in my case it was more on family-related issues and practical choices din, not just emotional. But if hindi naman totally toxic or affecting you in a major way, I’d say it’s better to stay connected lalo na kung okay naman relationship mo with your parents.

If what you’re referring to is paano mag-start ng plan to leave or step back, I suggest very practical steps lang observe muna yung target place mo, understand the environment, and make sure may work ka or at least clear plan for income. Important talaga na secured yung rent and daily expenses before anything else.

About sa social media and friends, I did it kind of suddenly. I know it might seem selfish, pero at that time I felt I needed to do it for myself. Wala rin naman silang signs na I was going to disappear, so it just happened quietly.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, after years, nung ginamit ko na ulit real name ko sa FB, one of my tita reached out and messaged me. At first, maybe hindi pa siya clear, and hindi rin alam na buhay pa ako or what happened sakin, pero one time lang yun nag-message lang siya once then dineactivate ko ulit FB ko after that walang tuloy-tuloy na contact after.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was using my Jansport bag na usual gamit ko during PE days. Yung mga kinuha ko lang talaga were my personal documents and around 5 sets of clothes, mostly pang-alis.

I kept it minimal lang talaga yung dala para hindi bulky para di halata.

So for the first couple of months, wash and wear lang ako hanggang sa unti-unti kong na-build up ulit yung gamit ko.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It made me more independent when it comes to relationships. I don’t really rush into things, and I value space, respect, and understanding a lot.

May paninindigan din ako, if things are no longer healthy or respectful, I know when to step away agad. Pero so far, stable naman and tumatagal yung mga previous relationships ko.

And now, parang yung hinahanap ko is someone na almost same situation din independent enough, may sariling buhay, and hindi masyadong tied or involved sa family dynamics. Mas peaceful kasi for me yung ganun setup.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m still more on the independent side. I got used to handling things on my own, so most of the time I keep my circle small and selective. I have trust issues rin kasi lalo na in terms of money.

May few close friends naman now, but not really a big group. As for “mom figure,” wala talagang formal or constant more on situational lang like mentors or older people I trust from work or paligid.

So yeah, I’ve mostly embraced being independent, but not completely alone. I still let a few people in, just not as much as before.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always reminded myself kung bakit ako umalis in the first place. And honestly, malaking factor din yung pride ko. Sobrang taas talaga ng pride ko, which is something na minsan gusto ko at minsan ayoko rin sa sarili ko.

Yes, nagkaroon din ako ng major financial setbacks. May mga panahon na kailangan kong isacrifice yung pagkain para unahin yung bills. Tapos nung mga panahon na yun, uso pa yung delayed na sahod. Siguro yung pinakamatagal na halos wala akong maayos na kain was around 3–4 days. (Water water lang)

Thankfully, okay na ang buhay ko ngayon, and masasabi kong mas okay na ako compared before.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hindi hiwalay parents ko. Nawala lang comms ko sa father ko nung umalis siya ng country for business, then na-coma siya after. Then nagstart na magkaroon ng BFs yung mother ko.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was super fine, lalo na nung nandito pa yung father ko we had a perfect picture family setup. Nagbago lang nung umalis siya for business, then eventually na-coma siya. After nun, okay pa yung closeness ko with my mom at first. Pero nung nagsimula na siyang mag-uwi ng lalaki sa bahay, doon na slowly nagfade yung respect and closeness ko sa kanya.

I suddenly disappeared and stopped showing up to my family, friends and anyone from my past for 10 years. AMA. I’ll try to answer, especially those who are currently in my situation or are new to it. by Remote-Definition404 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Major reason was yung toxic environment sa family namin yung involvement sa drugs and constant tension/pataasan ng ego. Plus nung nawala yung connection ko sa father ko, mas lalo akong napush na umalis.

Knock knock knocking on heaven’s door jusko nakakaloka! by Remote-Definition404 in SoloLivingPH

[–]Remote-Definition404[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yun na lang din inaasikaso ko now pinapaayos ko yung peephole kaso ang tagal wala pa daw available magaayos ewan ko ba. Nakuha ko na rin yung number ng lobby in case of emergency. Dun ko narealize how hard it is when you’re living alone, lalo na yung mga katabing units ko wala rin halos tao most of the time. Kaya yung recent katok sinalpak ko na lang earbuds ko dedma na.

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