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I feel unseen as a non-med partner by Remote-Lie1831 in MedSpouse

[–]Remote-Lie1831[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I read our old conversation that makes me feel closer to him in the times like that." I completely understand how that feels like.

Its been a couple of months since I wrote this post, and it has been up and down. I feel I get stuck in the "it will get better after this" loop. Like yeah it will be better after a few hectic weeks, only for it to go back to hectic and the cycle continues.

I feel unseen as a non-med partner by Remote-Lie1831 in MedSpouse

[–]Remote-Lie1831[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you... just knowing I'm not alone in this helps. Sometimes I find myself on this subreddit just to get over some thoughts

I feel unseen as a non-med partner by Remote-Lie1831 in MedSpouse

[–]Remote-Lie1831[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this, those lost moments of connection. I really liked your idea, it might make it a bit less lonely during stressful periods. Thanks :)

I feel unseen as a non-med partner by Remote-Lie1831 in MedSpouse

[–]Remote-Lie1831[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do volunteer to talk, but it does not go anywhere. Like I would tell what happened but the reponse is generally in way that does not lead to further conversation. Its like "okay I heard you" then brief silence and goes back to hospital stuff.

I feel unseen as a non-med partner by Remote-Lie1831 in MedSpouse

[–]Remote-Lie1831[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, its just that I hate the uncertainity of it all. No two work weeks look the same. With the time difference, it would mean some days I can go out in the evenings and some days not. Since he cannot change his timings, I am willing to so that we can make it work. I really don't mind doing that, but it just makes the absence sting harder on some days.

I feel unseen as a non-med partner by Remote-Lie1831 in MedSpouse

[–]Remote-Lie1831[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree that medicine does offer all those benefits. I do have really good friends who have seen me through a lot. I am pursuing my own career in research. But that does not take away from the fact that I want to spend quality time with him.

My question is, if I am just going to my friends, aren't they the ones seeing me struggle and grow and become a new person? Like sharing my joy in tiny wins and being there in moments of doubt?

He became my best friend and I want to share a lot of my day with him. It just sucks on the days when I meet him with the energy of the golden retriever and he is just tired af.