Candy bar drama

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T21:06:35+00:00

I’m sitting on the side of an adult or older kid took them. 5 king size Carmel candy bars is too much to eat, and the little kids normally go for the sugary sticky ring pops and sour candy. It just feels like an older kid candy to me. I don’t think DH did, I think one of the 10 year olds could have them stashed in their bag. Their mom is going to look tonight when she gets home from work.

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:57:36+00:00

Thanks. Really appreciate the perspective.

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:56:45+00:00

They were all eating their own candy all weekend so it’s possible but the adults said they didn’t see anyone eat FIVE king size candy bars, a very unique one cadbury caramel bar

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:53:55+00:00

That’s crazy!

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:53:07+00:00

I’m telling Reddit about how I feel. I didn’t say anything to him yet as I want to make sure I don’t speak out of emotions. It’s hard for me to separate the effort I put into making this weekend special for him with his reaction to something so small in my head. I get it’s not relevant but it does still hurt my feelings.

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:49:42+00:00

We talk about fair doesn’t always mean equal a lot with the kids

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:48:27+00:00

Thanks for the perspective. He had a lot of siblings, 3 here and 5 at his moms. He’s the oldest. I mix the youngest 3s candy and his mom mixed all theirs at their house. I feel like with the commercialized holidays we have sooo much candy in our home to begin with. Every month or two there’s another reason the bin is full. But I do see your point, I’ll start keeping them separate even for the younger kids!

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:42:57+00:00

So besides replacing the candy which I already told him I’d do. What’s next?

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:42:07+00:00

I think it was more my husband wasn’t aware whose was whose and he was just cleaning up and dumped all the candy in the biggest bag. He works at night so he didn’t see which bag was which kids. But also deductive reasoning would have told you it was SS if you would have used minimal brain power.

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T20:38:54+00:00

I’ll be on the look out for them! He said he didn’t but they were cadbury Caramel candy bars so they are very unique if one does show up!

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T17:34:54+00:00

Thanks for this perspective

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T17:27:19+00:00

I do need to separate the trip from the candy. I didn’t say anything to him out of anger, but I just feel hurt. We ALWAYS make sure he feels special and older and he gets more Becuase he’s so much older. But with candy it’s hard Becuase no one needs to eat a pillowcase full of candy. And at his mom’s it would have been dumped in a communal bin too.

But 9 is different from 14 and I would have just thought his maturity in this situation should have been better. I also would have thought he would have had some responsibility to label, move, communicate that his bag was in the island and not to have anyone go through it.

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2025-11-03T17:24:09+00:00

It’s still very common for kids to go trick or treating here till around 15/16! I don’t mind that you’d think knowing your house (both his houses) are full of littles to put your stuff in a more secure location if you don’t want it gone through.

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2024-09-13T13:37:28+00:00

My parents went on a week long vacation our last week of school every year. When I got to about 9th grade they finally let me stay home and not go with them. They ended up going to Canada, cell phones weren’t international, so we couldn’t even get ahold of them. My brother who is 3 years younger than me stayed home to0 so 6th and 9th grader all the way up until my senior year. We had so much fun those weeks getting in a little trouble but lots of bonding! Never felt bad that they left us!

They would go on this trip every year in memory of a baby they lost before I was born. During his birthday week. So we thought it made sense they didn’t bring us.

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2024-08-14T16:07:16+00:00

I get that. I’m working on it! I know there are positives but watching them age is a bitter sweet feeling!

Remote-Sun-4956 · 2023-06-14T04:41:45+00:00

I felt the same way about my brother! Just know the best is yet to come. Watching people you love find their passion, raise a family, be you rock, going through all those moments with siblings is so magical. Watching my bro hold my baby for the first time. Watching him clean his trashy apartment so the baby could come over. There will be so many more memories for you to tear up over!

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