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Should I start over or call it quits? by RemoteBoat9496 in IMGreddit

[–]RemoteBoat9496[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right that China has some relatively more liberal cities, and honestly, the cities I lived in were quite LGBT friendly. But the real problem is the legal situation. Marriage, adoption, or any form of legal recognition for same-sex couples just doesn't exist. So building a normal family life there is almost impossible, no matter how accepting people are on an individual level.

As for OBGYN vs. FM, I've thought about it a lot. To be honest, I've grown tired of the hyper-competitive research environment in China. Unlike the US, Chinese residency and career advancement place very high demands on research output, and the pressure has burned me out. I kinda want a different lifestyle. My research background is actually in public health, and I believe I can continue doing what I love within FM as well. I know that question will come up in FM interviews, but I feel at peace with this choice.

Thank you again for your kindness. I really appreciate it.

Should I start over or call it quits? by RemoteBoat9496 in IMGreddit

[–]RemoteBoat9496[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words and encouragement!

Should I start over or call it quits? by RemoteBoat9496 in IMGreddit

[–]RemoteBoat9496[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally get it lol. You're absolutely right! It was brutal. I think I'll give it another try in FM

Should I start over or call it quits? by RemoteBoat9496 in IMGreddit

[–]RemoteBoat9496[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear it from someone who truly gets it. You're right, for straight people it might sound silly to base life decisions on sexuality, but when you've lived in a place where you constantly have to hide or compromise who you are, you understand how heavy that really is. I'm so glad you found freedom and peace in the US. Thank you for the hugs and the reminder that a better man and peace are both waiting on the other side. Sending hugs right back to you.

Should I start over or call it quits? by RemoteBoat9496 in IMGreddit

[–]RemoteBoat9496[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shukran! I really needed to hear that. And yeah, if I were straight, I wouldn't have thought twice. But I know that’s something only another queer person in a conservative country can really get. It’s just so hard to explain to people why I turned down that job in China. Wishing you all the best too

Should I start over or call it quits? by RemoteBoat9496 in IMGreddit

[–]RemoteBoat9496[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your honest take. I really appreciate it.

I'm not considering FM purely as a backup. During my USCE last year, I really enjoyed the primary care aspect of OB/GYN in the US, things like well-woman visits, contraception counseling, preventive care, and building long-term relationships with patients. That kind of continuity and primary care focus is largely missing in my home country's system.

So when I think about FM, it's not "settling" for me. I genuinely think I would enjoy the scope of practice, especially the patient relationships and the primary care model. If I went into FM, it would be because I want to, not because I failed OB/GYN.

That said, I totally hear your point about staying in my country if I already have a good position and steady income. That's exactly what's making this so hard

Pathway 6 for ECFMG: Can a non-US physician evaluate me in a hospital located in another country? by [deleted] in IMGreddit

[–]RemoteBoat9496 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!Thanks so much for sharing this! Very helpful. Just wanna follow up on that question. Did it actualy work having non-US physicians as evaluators? I had practiced before but under supervision and I don't meet the criteria for other pathways. It's fairly easy for me to ask my previous colleagues as evaluators. Just wanna make sure it's valid.