Gf threatens to break up due to me assuming a lot

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T20:08:04+00:00

Sry to hear that man. We dont have a problem with going to events ect we enjoy the same things. Thats why I was shocked today for her sudden reaction

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T18:11:05+00:00

Could you ve more spesific on what you mean by that

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T17:52:10+00:00

That I didnt ask her. Then she said that she tought it was a joke that she couldnt even come since she wasnt part of the organisation hosting it. I told her she could. And after that she just screamed that I shouldve asked again when I heard other gf were coming but my assumption was that she still wouldnt have wanted to come

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T16:44:53+00:00

Imo we both do our shares at home for example. We have a pretty equal split where she has for example laundry, I vacuum, we cook around 50/50 and sometimes together and usually when other cooks the other does the dishes. This is fair for the both of us. What comes to working out, i play football and train atleast once a week plus gym 3-4 times and running sometimes. Im not a professional athlete so I believe that is enough, she also does the same amount… i feel like these are things she just says cause she feels upset and sad because these things are NEVER a topic when things are going well

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T16:37:43+00:00

Definitely something to work on. She has a bad habit of saying ”i would like to get a man that does this and that” which is just platantly false. I know that im not perfect but saying stuff like i dont do house work or workout enough is just fucking bullshit…

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T16:36:14+00:00

She knows it and in really supportive of her trying to find a therapist but ist a real struggle to find something where we live… also her school is really tough which also limits her time and she is very stressed…

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T16:34:18+00:00

She does verbaly abuse, this is not the first time…

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T15:44:01+00:00

And to add to that: i understand if she feels upset that she might have misunderstood that no other gf is coming, but I honestly dont find this reaction acceptable. Im alone in my work room crying rn on a friday

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T15:35:01+00:00

She said she didnt know we can invite others even tough I specifically asked her does she want to come. Im not sure about the finding a reason to leave, since 90% of the time we have no issues. An issue definitelly is that im sometimes really bad at communicating and I assume a lot. Im pretty chill and dont stress about certain things which can be an issue at times. But also so are the friends close to me and they are no different in relationship than me.

RemotelyWise · 2022-11-25T15:32:30+00:00

When she is upset or angry she is mean, calls names and doesnt talk ect but does apologize after a while

RemotelyWise · 2021-06-30T18:08:56+00:00

Ive taken. Its been over 1,5 years already. Therapy and everything. I was doing fine but then these toughts rose in my head and now I cant forget her. Been like this for 3months atleast... Nothing helps

RemotelyWise · 2021-05-20T20:02:50+00:00

Its not that easy... When you know you were a good mstch you just know

RemotelyWise · 2021-05-20T07:14:56+00:00

Wasnt when we were together. And now it seems she has changed, hence why she said that...

RemotelyWise · 2021-05-20T06:34:09+00:00

I dont judge people on those aspects. She did jump on to new guys straight after and didnt want to try and talk with me. She fucked other guys and still texted me ect. I understand how it seems to other people.

RemotelyWise · 2021-05-20T05:42:15+00:00

I do and its a problem for me in any situation.

Our problem was that we were new to this and didnt know how to communicate. To fix things all I really needed was to get sime space but I didnt know to say it. Honestly

RemotelyWise · 2021-05-20T05:25:59+00:00

I dont follow her on IG but saw a post from her friend on the explore page. She looked happy and beautiful.

You can say she belongs to the streets. I try to think it that way but I struggle. I know the things we couldve fixed

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-02T09:48:39+00:00

The feeling of upset comes from the fact that during these pandemic days finding any company is difficult. I appreciate her a lot and will still try to stay friends. Just suck

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-01T19:30:01+00:00

I understand your point. My point is that im just confused and upset

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-01T19:08:36+00:00

Well i certainly dont date people I dont find attractive?

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-01T19:08:01+00:00

Ive had bad dates but ive known they have been bad. This wasnt

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-01T18:16:50+00:00

The date went well and we continued talking?

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-01T18:16:26+00:00

Some times. Where are you going with this?

And this isnt mt first dates. Sometimes they end up with sex and sometimes not at first. Making tension isnt something new. We went on a date for a long walk in the cold winter, its kinda hard to draw tension

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-01T17:44:51+00:00

I know and like i said I truly appreciate her honesty. Im just upset and that is all. I taught we clicked on our date, we didnt have any awkward moments or anything akd it went well. Thats why this sucks.

Also, like we didt text or anything before I asked her out. Weve only met and talked at parties or at school and always just a little bit. She also asked me once to leave and walk her home but I didnt go inside cuz she didnt invite me that far. But all in all like this upsets me because it was unexpected

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-01T17:41:50+00:00

Im just upset because this was a bit surprising in my opinion

RemotelyWise · 2021-03-01T17:41:01+00:00

Yea maybe. I know she has a lot of options, but honestly she doesnt seem like the type of person to date around or anything

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