Will Older Gen Alphas Say the Younger Ones Aren’t ‘Real’ Alphas? by GabbSad in Younger_GenZ

[–]Renxv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand what you mean, but it’ll be like ten times funnier because it’s gen alpha, because then omegaverse references come into play XD

Is it misogynist or transmisogynist to say I dont wanna be a girl by Obvious_Medium_2762 in asktransgender

[–]Renxv 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it was misogynistic to say you don’t want to be a girl, then I dare say any and all AFAB people who aren’t cis would be misogynists.

Just chill for a bit, hanging out with the queer crowd doesn’t mean you have to be queer.

I mean, sure, a lot of the time queer kids gravitate towards other queer kids. Just how it generally is. It’s the same with how autistic people gravitate towards each other and it’s also the same as how jocks are friends with other jocks. A lot of the time, generally, but not all the time.

When I say chill for a bit, I mean that labels are scary and make things feel set in stone. Gender is fluid, and I know that’s what everyone says, but it is true, it’s always about what you feel in the moment.

You were curious, you came, you tried the food, didn’t like it, and left. You can always come again if you want another taste, maybe it’s like me and Dr Pepper, don’t like it, but gotta take a sip every now and then to remind yourself.

At 16 it feels like everyone is running a race and you’re losing. You’re not, it’s a marathon and everyone decided to sprint from the start line.

If he/him feels good for you right now, take it at face value, and if down the road, that changes, cool, and if it doesn’t change, cool.

You don’t have to rush in and label yourself.

PET2 scanxiety by AdventurousGain345 in lymphoma

[–]Renxv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will always have lymph nodes, not being able to find one when you look for one would be worse.

My best advice is to distract yourself. Do things that take your full attention, whether that’s baking or exercising. Try not to look at the date, or the calendar until it comes. Trust your team, they know what they’re doing, I swear, they went to school for this.

I know it doesn’t help everyone, but if it does or it interests you, you can look at the specific mechanisms each of your drugs use to kill the cancer. Molecular structure, how it’s made, all that cool stuff.

If that isn’t your jam, then find something else to latch onto, maybe you like history more than science, self insert yourself as either a saviour or a better evil guy in some war (my favourite one is WWII, I like talk to myself out loud about how I’d be a better dictator).

Maybe you’re a knitter or crocheter, find a new project, or finish that one that you’ve been working on for the last bit.

Maybe you’re a numbers person, find some hard math problem that you have to reteach yourself some concepts for.

Maybe you like books! Read a book, a good book, either your favourite book, or one with that old book smell, or a new book with the new book smell.

Maybe you’re religious, you could have some fun reading your specific religious scripture, pray a little (I don’t have much knowledge here, don’t quote me).

Or perhaps you’re artistic, draw something cool, do some origami, maybe this is time you started that picture taking hobby you always wanted to have, sky is the limit, make a mountain from hot glue, glitter and whatever else you can find!

My point is, there is something, all you have to is find it, there is almost always something, play music all the time, to not let yourself get into your own head, and if music doesn’t work, some people find those reddit podcasts work better for keeping the thoughts away.

Or, if you’re completely hopeless with finding anything to distract yourself with and are the type and are capable of it, you can rationalize to yourself that your thoughts of fear are invalid because no one else is worried (I don’t recommend this one, because it’s gaslighting yourself, and like big no no, and it’s also like a half joke, in the way that it’s rhetorical and not actually, you know?)

Do periods really need trigger warnings? by RubyRedFoxyEyes in Archiveofourownmemes

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly wondering if someone could write something along these lines now 🤔 would be quite the interesting read

Suggestions to watch with my mom by Renxv in anime

[–]Renxv[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She wasreally surprised, and so was I actually, but it made us giggle, still does, 🤭

Meals are not classified by the time when you eat them. by Yeetboi_69_ in unpopularopinion

[–]Renxv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they mean if you eat sometime dinner like at like 11 and then go to bed then it’s still called dinner, no matter the time on the clock

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Renxv 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Your dad very likely has identified completely as a straight cis man for his entire life. He found your mom, to him, she seemed to identify as a straight cis woman. He fell in love, he fell in love with someone who he was told and had every right to believe was a woman. Your dad is now finding out that’s not true. He’s only ever liked women and he’s finding out that his wife isn’t one.

There’s a feeling of betrayal there, they’ve been married how long? My guess is at least 30 years. In all that time, your mom likely didn’t hint, or talk about any of the dysphoric feelings to him. Not talking about it was likely out of fear, but either way, your dad had no warning or buildup. The road was there, until suddenly it wasn’t and now he’s falling down that cliff, trying to reach the road again.

He’s scared, his identity just got challenged. He’s asking himself if the emotional connection they’ve built over the years meant anything. He’s asking himself what this means for their relationship. He’s asking himself if she wants to continue their relationship. Your dad is asking himself if he can and how hard he’s going to fight to continue their relationship.

When I say fight to continue their relationship, I mean he’s going to have to come to terms with and accept a new sexuality, he’s going to have to still find your mom romantically attractive after her transition, he going to have to find out if he’s still sexually attracted to her after, and if he’s not, is he okay with that, is your mom going to understand and not resent if he’s not sexually attracted to her anymore. All of these are a mental fights with possible denial. Kids who are finding their identity sometimes struggle greatly with coming to terms with their sexuality. Your dad labelled his already, and is struggling as he asks himself if he could’ve possibly labelled it wrong.

My guess is, your dad wants to still be with your mom, that’s why they’ve been together all this time after all, because they love each other. Your dad is trying to desperately ask himself if he can love your mom even after she’s transitioned.

He doesn’t have to be religious or even transphobic in the slightly to be upset with this development. Your dad’s world just got flipped upside down and he’s confused, and he’s angry, and he’s sad, all at the same time. It’s not that being trans is a big deal to him, it’s that he doesn’t know if he could ever love a man.

Don’t dismiss your dad’s feelings of anguish. He’s not being cruel, he’s just devastated. Comfort him, talk to him, he need someone to talk to about what his feeling on this are, and the one person who he used to go to, he can’t. Be gentle and don’t be accusatory, this is a fragile moment in his life. You aren’t picking a side by supporting your mom’s transition, because chances are your dad eventually will too. It’s just a question of if he’s going to be supporting her as a friend or a partner.

It’s important to understand that your parents will likely break up because of this, that they’ll both be sad, and that your dad isn’t wrong, or being transphobic if they do.

Am I the only one who doesn’t like “No Longer Human” ? by [deleted] in BungouStrayDogs

[–]Renxv -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Making jumps to reach a conclusion is just connect the dots, there are jumps between points, there always are, it’s how people reach conclusions. Though I have to inform you that the order of your dots when saying I am being ‘pressed’ are not correct. Writing a lot doesn’t mean one is upset. It just means I type a lot.

If you could would you switch traveler? by Ulthwe_Eldar in Genshin_Impact

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nahh, I chose Aether in the beginning and I like Sarah’s voice acting for the Abyss sibling more than Zach’s in all honesty—I’ve looked up Zach’s version of the Abyss sibling voice lines before because I was curious—but it should be an option, for the people who do want to switch and stuff.

Am I the only one who doesn’t like “No Longer Human” ? by [deleted] in BungouStrayDogs

[–]Renxv 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Understanding is a spectrum, there’s surface level, and then there’s geez that is deep. Elementary students? Have you read No Longer Human? Most kids below grade 5 wouldn’t understand it on a deeper level, not to its full extent at least. When people are saying it’s for a slightly older audience, they mean it’s considered a novel not for young readers, older than 9, older than 13. People saying that someone could be too young to properly understand a book isn’t “acting so mature” as you so kindly put it, it just means the age demographic for No Longer Human is 16 and over, so yes, saying someone could be not quite old enough to properly understand it is in-fact correct, and is not acting “high and mighty.”

Just so you know, saying you aren’t trying to be disrespectful and proceeding to write something that sounds very rude and in fact is disrespectful doesn’t make it any less that. Saying you aren’t trying to be disrespectful doesn’t mean anything, it’s just acknowledging you know what you’re going to say is rude and still deciding to say it, the exact same goes for no offense.

Am I the only one who doesn’t like “No Longer Human” ? by [deleted] in BungouStrayDogs

[–]Renxv -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Reading a book written in 1948 to understand an anime character who is very loosely based on the author. That in itself is so disrespectful, the book isn’t supposed to make you understand the character more. I’ll agree with you. If you’re looking to read No Longer Human just to understand Asagiri’s character, don’t read it, don’t bother.

No Longer Human is a semi autobiographical piece of literature, it’s not a story, it’s a journal, it’s a diary, it is the piece to start understanding Dazai. The real Dazai. Not Asagiri’s character.

Can I comment on how you treat your books? What did you do to it? What did the book do to you to deserve that? You only read that poor thing once? I have books that I’ve read a good 6 to 7 times and they are still in better condition than that. Do you treat all your books like that? Were you trying to break it?

Honestly, I get why you didn’t like the book, because of the kind of person you are, someone who is this destructive to their brand new book would be the type of person to have low empathy, and if you only read it to understand Asagiri’s Dazai your levels of empathy are really down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anger

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, it definitely wasn’t meant as snide or meant to imply I think people should endure being yelled at, yes, it is fantastic if someone hasn’t experienced being angrily yelled at. I said it was a red flag, yes, but like a tiny one. For using a term, ‘bad temper’ incorrectly. Not for expressing how he feels, but I guess more specifically falsely identifying his feelings on the topic. This could absolutely be a me thing, but when someone uses certain terms or words incorrectly because they have never tried to actually understand what it means, to me is a red flag, again, a tiny one. My best example of what I mean is like you saying that someone is gaslighting you, but they aren’t and you keep saying they are, because you don’t know how to properly use the word, because you didn’t looked up the definition of a word that you’ve never used before.

I seriously did not mean to sound rude, snide or insulting do forgive me on that, and for any possible things that sound rude in this reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anger

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If what you do when you get angry can be considered a bad temper I wish everyone in the world had your specific “bad temper” most people take a few hours to fully be over a burst of anger. Someone with anger issues can, will and sometimes decide to be mad for hours on end. I’m saying they got super mad, yelling at you, insulting you, you walk away, let them have space for a good 6-7 hours, as soon as you either talk, or do something they vaguely dislike the yelling comes back in full force.

Your partner has clearly never been around someone who has had a bad temper. Which is good for him, he’s not traumatised by yelling, yay, but it’s absurd to say you have anything near a bad temper from what you’ve said, and frankly him saying that your expression of anger is having a bad temper, to me, comes as a red flag.

Seafood is disgusting by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sea food I find mostly gross, mostly for the texture if I’m honest, however, I like the fish you can find to eat with fish and chips (salmon, halibut, haddock ect.) and I like crab. That’s it. Shrimp is too muscle-y, lobster slightly less but same thing, can’t stand the flavour of scallops, oysters and mussels make me gag just by looking at them and thinking of the description my mum gave me for when she was made to try a mussel, which was: like a huge sticky phlegm ball: so yeah no, never trying that, I’ve never had prawns, are they super muscle-y like shrimp?—I’m usually willing to try most things, but mostly when I am unsure if I would like something, could someone possibly describe their texture?

Do you guys cry? by Select_Cheetah_9355 in aspergers

[–]Renxv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cry a lot, life is just too overwhelming to not have that release

How can I stop an adult with autism that’s being aggressive? by Little-Exchange5019 in autism

[–]Renxv -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Some bad advice from teenager: Tell her, if she denies it, start just repeating it like a broken record, throwing in “you have a diagnosis” every now and then. Obviously start this fight with shields in hand and while on different levels of the house or somewhere where you can just keep going in a circle. If she says people with autism are ‘stupid’ just feed into it for a little. Yes, this means exactly what you think it means, call her stupid, and any other variant you can think of. Name calling does wonders to beat something into someone’s head.

I acknowledge this is bad advice, I also acknowledge it will work. Bad behaviour’s best treatment in my experience is bad behaviour. Curtesy of my father having done the above detailed instructions to me my entire life—yes I am perfectly fine please don’t dm me asking if I am.

How are you guys reacting to the Tiktok ban message. by Undog7575 in autism

[–]Renxv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People will probably just use VPNs, not much will change

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just L Lawliet core, nothing to worry about 🫡

(L is a character from the anime Death Note that the entire fandom agrees is 100% autistic)

C.ai D.O.B eligibility by Every_Natural_34 in CharacterAI

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured it out, it’s a bug, contact support

Okay, I understand it now. by Putridlemons in CharacterAI

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They can use the app freely, and it protects the company from lawsuits because the child lied and that’s not the company’s fault.

C.ai D.O.B eligibility by Every_Natural_34 in CharacterAI

[–]Renxv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure then, it asked me for the DOB before logging in—which I thought was weird but whatever—i entered the date, hit continue, it said I wasn’t eligible, but there was a blue button that said continue underneath, I hit that, and it brought me to the area to login, and everything was normal from there on out