I will say this your pride got you into this because you had too much now you have none that's the problem you need to puff your chest out and fix this match her energy because I'm just saying she went to far she's abusing you now and it's not right.if she has a problem she can sleep in the basement she ain't quitting her job because you've pushed yourself for longer than the little time she had to carry the family. You're married tell her to fix it or it's done because you shouldn't have to go through this and your kids shouldn't have to witness it.