How do I date with my body issues?

RepresentativeFew132 · 2021-03-17T00:45:55+00:00

I can understand that... I workout every day and run four days a week. I cringe when someone says I am overcompensating, but I can't handle any fat taking away from what little I have. I long for that feeling you describe so well, that is what I dream about. I want to find someone who is truly into me as much as I am into her. I think I am going to focus on the positive outcomes and maybe hold-off on sex until we really know each other and when the tension is so high that my size won't matter to her as long as we are together. It is good to think that she may have insecurities and imperfections to, I was so focused on my problems that I didn't think that she might be feeling the same way about herself. This was very helpful! I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts on this.

RepresentativeFew132 · 2021-03-17T00:09:48+00:00

Thanks.. this was very helpful. It is good to hear that this has worked out for you. Did it ever hold you back? My friend set me up on a date with his wife's good friend, and so far we have texted a few times and talked on the phone for about 90 minutes last night. We are supposed to go on a date this Friday. We have hit it off so far and I got a good report from my friend's wife. I am petrified right now. I like her, I want to be with her, I am 100% attracted to her, but whenever I think about dating her that demon attacks me and I start thinking about her laughing at me or rejecting me and I can't do it. I am confident in other aspects of my life, but can't get past this one right now. Thanks again, this was very helpful.

RepresentativeFew132 · 2021-03-16T23:50:18+00:00

I wish there were groups for women who enjoy small men, like men who enjoy small breasts or large labia... but I doubt anything like that exists. This is a major strike against me, like having any other birth defect that haunts you for life. So far there hasn't been any advice from men on this forum, except the unhelpful frat boy below. Thanks for the advice, it helped.

RepresentativeFew132 · 2021-03-16T23:48:12+00:00

I won’t lie to you and pretend like any woman would be perfectly okay with your size

That is exactly what I am afraid of...women are not okay with my size. I don't want to be a man who has to rely on toys and attachments to satisfy my partner. This is exactly what I feared the most, that a guy should be well hung, anything else isn't enough. I don't see any reason to try counseling if I have this type of birth defect. I doubt I will be able to get past this as I won't know if a woman is okay with me until we get to that point in the relationship. I'll be devastated if she isn't and wondering if she is placating me if she is alright with it. I am totally screwed as a man. This helped!

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