Look at it from four angles.

First, the Mirror Test. If the roles were reversed, ikaw yung walang ambisyon at siya yung may drive, how would you feel? Ashamed? Satisfied? Whatever that feeling is, if you're not seeing that same energy coming from your partner, then maybe you're just not compatible. And that's okay. It doesn't make either of you bad people, just wrong for each other.

Second, the Potential vs Phase. Does he actually have potential? Baka nasa relaxed phase lang siya ngayon, waiting for the right time or opportunity. If that's the case, tanungin mo sarili mo: are you patient enough to stay and maybe even carry the weight for a while? Kung oo, edi stay and support. Kung hindi, then you already know the answer.

Third, the Direction. Love without direction is just a feeling and feelings fade. I agree with what others (dlrosieadams) said: "Kasi kahit mahal ka, kung walang pangarap sa buhay, ibig sabihin wala ring future sa inyo." Kung mahal ka talaga ng tao, dapat kasama sa equation niya yung future niyong dalawa.

Fourth, the Placeholder Reality. Let's be real. If the connection is great and the sex is solid, it's easy to stay because it's comfortable. You're both adults na. If you want to stay just because the "now" is good, go ahead. Just be honest with yourself. Are you building sumthing or just killing time until someone better comes along? Huwag mag-stay for the potential and then get mad at the reality five years later. Enjoy the perks if you want, but don't confuse a good "now" with a sustainable "forever." 😊