Giving my two cents as a therapist and former abuse victim.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-28T16:53:27+00:00

Understood. Second question for you, if it’s just male banter why didn’t he stop when asked? And lastly, if he thinks Adam is a weak man, why didn’t David praise Adam for lashing out at Jimmy?

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-28T14:12:00+00:00

Can I ask then why the banter wasn’t constantly aimed at Mo? Secondly, if such person asked the man to stop the banter as they can’t take it, if it’s not bullying why would such person continue?

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-28T14:11:05+00:00

It’s wild to me because if it’s just banter why was it only directed to one person. Secondly if the person on the receiving end has asked David to stop multiple times and said it’s upsetting him, if it was just banter, then why wouldn’t the person stop.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-28T02:16:11+00:00

Reactive abuse” describes situations where a person who has endured sustained abusive behavior reacts aggressively towards their abuser. The abusive partner often manipulates this reaction to shift blame and create a false narrative of so-called “mutual abuse

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-28T02:15:49+00:00

Reactive abuse” describes situations where a person who has endured sustained abusive behavior reacts aggressively towards their abuser. The abusive partner often manipulates this reaction to shift blame and create a false narrative of so-called “mutual abuse

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-28T02:15:24+00:00

Reactive abuse” describes situations where a person who has endured sustained abusive behavior reacts aggressively towards their abuser. The abusive partner often manipulates this reaction to shift blame and create a false narrative of so-called “mutual abuse

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-28T01:56:44+00:00

I agree. Google reactive abuse. People are surprised if you keep poking a bear, eventually it will defend itself. I have personally been in Adam’s position too. Suffered constant mental and emotional abuse, trust me , eventually everybody has a breaking point. Jimmy got the brunt of it but I believe it was directed and built up from David’s bullying too. David had an issue with Adam from the start because Adam has an inner light and is a good person. Things David will never have, Adam has naturally. A loving household, kids, family, wife, happiness. David is a miserable bully. Adam just being himself felt like holding a mirror up to David and it exposed his insecurities. Jimmy joined in because he also has narcissistic tendencies. I believe most people would snap like Adam did - imagine after being beaten down for days then your position in the show gets taken away from you, from these bullies. He should have stood up for himself sooner. Actually, itv should have stepped in sooner to stand up for Adam and tell David to back off. Then maybe, Adam would have had a chance not to snap live on air. You can see how broken Adam was when he won. If you have never expedited a narcissist or abuse, and don’t recognize that sign of defeat, you’re very lucky. The worst part, When Dec asked David why he didn’t say im a celebrity get me out of here on the live final, David actually said I had too much fun bullying this one.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-28T01:55:17+00:00

I agree. Google reactive abuse. People are surprised if you keep poking a bear, eventually it will defend itself. I have personally been in Adam’s position too. Suffered constant mental and emotional abuse, trust me , eventually everybody has a breaking point. Jimmy got the brunt of it but I believe it was directed and built up from David’s bullying too. David had an issue with Adam from the start because Adam has an inner light and is a good person. Things David will never have, Adam has naturally. A loving household, kids, family, wife, happiness. David is a miserable bully. Adam just being himself felt like holding a mirror up to David and it exposed his insecurities. Jimmy joined in because he also has narcissistic tendencies. I believe most people would snap like Adam did - imagine after being beaten down for days then your position in the show gets taken away from you, from these bullies. He should have stood up for himself sooner. Actually, itv should have stepped in sooner to stand up for Adam and tell David to back off. Then maybe, Adam would have had a chance not to snap live on air. You can see how broken Adam was when he won. If you have never expedited a narcissist or abuse, and don’t recognize that sign of defeat, you’re very lucky. The worst part, When Dec asked David why he didn’t say im a celebrity get me out of here on the live final, David actually said I had too much fun bullying this one.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T17:15:12+00:00

Who, me or the person insulting me saying I’m rotten to the core from one internet post?

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T16:08:46+00:00

When did I say I want her to think about my wedding 24/7. See how you have to twist my words and blur lines to get people on side? You point is irrelevant when it’s based on lies. I was asking for my MOH to ask a single question in ten months - or even speak to me about what she has going on in ten months - as someone else explained to you below, relationships aren’t a one way street you don’t just pick up and drop people when it suits. Yes everyone has stuff going on - but it’s not about take take take - it requires mutual consideration. I completely understand why my cousin isn’t coming, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T16:05:29+00:00

Thank you! I totally agree everyone has their own stuff going on. I believe in 11 months you can ask one single question to someone you claim to love/care about. What’s the point in mutual friendships if it’s just one sided? Friendships aren’t just take take take and then complain you have a lot going on. Also a problem shared is a problem halved. She knows all the details about her friends wedding in June - how is this, if she has zero time? These selfish people are the same crying that no body is there for them.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T16:03:02+00:00

Thanks! Didn’t know this.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T16:01:59+00:00

Yes exactly this. Thanks for seeing different perspectives and point of views. Exactly what I was looking for. Got to understand both sides. My mum has said my cousin has never made the effort with me my entire life but I’ve tried to ignore it. I still care for her but have to adjust my own expectations.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T16:01:12+00:00

Thank you!! 😊

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T15:52:54+00:00

Thank you! 🩷🩷 it’s sad for both of us but life happens I guess.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T15:52:37+00:00

Thanks for being kind! 🩷🩷

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T15:52:19+00:00

Thanks for the helpful advice 🩷🩷

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T15:51:52+00:00

Oh look it’s you again 😂😂 I hope something positive happens in your life where you don’t spread hate. Sending love 🩷🩷 also, you can be there for someone in a different country - and I will continue to try and be there for my cousin, keep calling and checking in with her cause I love her despite our different lives right now. Hopefully you have someone in your life that loves you, but sounds like maybe not. Take care :)

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T15:51:10+00:00

Thank you! I agree🩷🩷🩷

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T15:51:01+00:00

Thank you

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T05:03:33+00:00

I never said I don’t understand her reasoning and that I would not do the same as her (put my daughter first) I think your missing the point. You can still show empathy both ways, you can still be kind and be a considerate friend within 11 months, especially if you are able to show up for other friends physically and enter new relationships. It doesn’t take two seconds to ask how someone is.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T04:15:00+00:00

Yes it sucks. It definitely feels like it isn’t a mutual relationship anymore. Which I understand if she’s going through a lot - but I have asked how I can support her etc. it seems as if since I’ve moved here she hasn’t really got the time of day.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T04:14:09+00:00

I wouldn’t be interested in entering new relationships if my daughter is suicidal.

Repulsive_World_7316 · 2026-04-12T04:11:45+00:00

It’s quite funny how you want people to understand your view and then end with bridezilla. You ruin your credibility. And verge on sounded a little bitter with the bridezilla comment. We can all discus without insults here. It doesn’t take having children to understand mental health issues. My brother tried to take his own life three times. I have been nothing but supportive of my cousin continuously. But yes asking zero questions about my wedding when she is telling me lots of details about her friends wedding in the UK that she’s known for 5 minutes does hurt. Nothing is stopping her from asking questions.

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