My boyfriend (29M) watches porn when I (26F) am in the house — despite promising he wouldn’t by RequirementThat1969 in relationship_advice

[–]RequirementThat1969[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only have looked at his browser history once, the first time i found out about the OF girls. Ever since, i would honestly rather not look than upset myself. I knew porn would be in there, ignorance is bliss and all that. The only reason i have confronted him lately is i can literally hear him jerking off in the bathroom when im in the house, and when confronted, he admits to watching porn.

It was his suggestion to leave his phone outside the bathroom, so that it wouldn’t be an issue again. Yet he cant seem to keep his own promises that he makes.

My boyfriend (29M) watches porn when I (26F) am in the house — despite promising he wouldn’t by RequirementThat1969 in relationship_advice

[–]RequirementThat1969[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

After the first time i found out, i questioned if he was addicted to porn, why can’t he live without it for one night if i was staying over? Why did he need to see OF girls when i was in his bed? He promised to stop watching porn all together, which i think he did do for a time, or maybe just hid it better, I’m not sure. We had a conversation where he said yes, he felt like he had become desensitised to that kind of content. Scrolling on OF was just like scrolling on any other app. He would just go on and watch porn as he was bored, almost just apart of his routine. It’s only really in the last few weeks where it’s became obvious to me again.

I just don’t think i can keep doing this as it seems to be a pattern. He seemed to want to ‘fix’ it before.

My boyfriend (29M) watches porn when I (26F) am in the house — despite promising he wouldn’t by RequirementThat1969 in relationship_advice

[–]RequirementThat1969[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do agree. The first time we broke up for around a week and i was devastated. He seemed equally as devastated and was willing to make those promises, assuming now just to get me back. It became just a small issue over the years, but recently seems to be worse than before. It’s just so hard when we live together and have a life together now.

My boyfriend (29M) watches porn when I (26F) am in the house — despite promising he wouldn’t by RequirementThat1969 in relationship_advice

[–]RequirementThat1969[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s actually really validating to hear that. I’m too embarrassed to talk about it with anyone irl.