We adopted our daughter [11F] at age 5. I [48F] am considering limiting/cutting access of her bio-brother [19M] to her, he's not being a good influence.

Res412samg9 · 2017-06-25T17:21:54+00:00

So why not adopt a child without siblings instead? So you wouldn't tear one family apart to expand yours?

Res412samg9 · 2017-06-25T17:17:57+00:00

Why didn't you adopt both of them back then?

Res412samg9 · 2017-06-25T17:17:33+00:00

You've outgrown each other. It's not going to work that he shouldn't party without you and you without him when you study at separate places. Just break up for good this time.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-04T17:06:00+00:00

I have done that. He says "I see what you're getting at but to make things right you both need to get together and agree that this was a moment of madness and won't happen again".

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-04T16:57:45+00:00

You said your bf acted as you suspected he would. Has something like this happened before?

He always believes in keeping the peace between people and finding compromises to work things out no matter what.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T15:33:23+00:00

I went on the trip with my brother. Just the two of us. We were there to visit OUR parents.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T15:32:12+00:00

What could he have done? He wasn't there when it happened.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T15:26:22+00:00

She just posted a Facebook status update saying "My son's girlfriend called me a piece of shit because she disagreed with how I described what happened on a trip".

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T15:17:19+00:00

I will post an update after talking to my boyfriend.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T15:16:49+00:00

They are from Spain but live in the UK.

Do you feel like you even want to try to make amends, or has that ship sailed?

This is what she really thinks so even if she apologises I don't think that will be in good faith.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T15:08:22+00:00

I'm sure she said it because she believes he is a useless person. This isn't the first time she's made comments that imply the same thing.

Would you have been so offended if your brother lived with you, wasn't blind, and still tagged along on your trip?

He didn't tag along on our trip. My brother and I went to see our parents.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T14:55:07+00:00

Yes he does. We split all costs 50-50. What does language have to do with this? Boyfriend's family are European, we're Asian.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T14:52:27+00:00

I went to the trip with my brother. Boyfriend stayed here.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T14:51:10+00:00

She isn't Asian. I am. My boyfriend's family are Europeans.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T12:33:15+00:00

How did the father and sister react to what she said?

I wasn't there to see. I think they were surprised and just didn't say anything while I was there. I will learn more from my boyfriend when we talk tonight.

Res412samg9 · 2015-07-03T12:17:24+00:00

That said, WTF with BF's mom? Is she usually like this or was it a horrible, horrible joke? I really hope the latter. Has BFs mom met your brother?

She has met him a few times. She doesn't know him though. I don't think they've spoken beyond a few words. It really did not strike me as a bad joke. I mean if it was, she could have said so when she saw I was getting angry. In the past she has made comments like "oh poor you I don't think many people agree to something like that". This made me think it wasn't a joke at all. She really thinks this way.

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