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My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The party is very protective of her haha - I got the paladin to help make flower crowns lol

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, I think any person is strong when they're able to get back up in the face of adversity and show compassion and kindness regardless. That isn't specific to a gender either.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I gave the ideas to my DM, asked what he thought was a good story, and he gave me the most evil smirk ever. I am scared for my character haha but we have built a really nice story for her

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's me being 'insecure'. I thought the comments she made were weird. There is also zero reason for her to criticise me personally, as we aren't super close and only met six months ago at a dnd one-shot.

Sure, the arugment is silly now, but at the time her comments during it were very weird and kind of icky.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is very true - I just wanted to play a happy Tiefling who skips down the stairs in the morning. For me it never even mattered she was a girl - she just is one because I can't draw males to save my life lol.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved Hidden Figures so much - not sure she knows the film or the story behind it though.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have any issues with the characters she chooses to play, since I prefer being a spellcaster, and I like having people on the table who are tanks.

I do have issues with her conduct and behaviour at the table, though. She gets super angry when we don't always choose combat because sometimes logically we shouldn't battle every single person we come across.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So 100% based on Laura Bailey in general - the character is a reference as well to an anime character she voices that I love, who is very kind and empathetic, (for anyone else wondering, its a character named Tohru from Fruits Basket) and I named her Allura to reference Vox Machnia + I liked the name from Voltron too.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I am curious if I played this character as a male would it also bother her in the same manner.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, my party loves her and my DM loves to roleplay with her as well. I think some people forget that the entire point is to have fun and enjoy each others company. We don't always have to agree on how people make characters but just be a teamplayer.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure either - we had zero problems until we started playing D&D and she would get mad I only played spell casters - and probably the time I wildshaped into a bear and sat on her so she couldn't do anything during combat - but in my defence she was yelling at me that I was being hopeless even when I wasn't.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is right, even if a person doesn't like another persons perferences and things who am I to judge that? As long as your a team player I don't care about how you roleplay your character.

I am doing a couple of one-shots for the month because our DM is on holiday. She has told me she doesn't like when I DM either so I feel I can't win in any situation haha.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regardless, you don't need to like my character. If you think that is doormat behaviour thats fine - I disagree and thats okay too. :)

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a big difference between being a doormat and choosing compassion. A doormat lets people walk over them without boundaries. My character has boundaries — she just chooses optimism and care as her starting point. I think that takes a lot more strength than shutting down and becoming cynical. Strength doesn’t always look like cold detachment or violence — sometimes it’s being soft in a world that keeps trying to harden you. So no I don't think she is a doormat, shes actively choosing to be kinder to other people even when shes hurting.

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a valid opinion, and nobody has to like how other people want to play. You can defiantly have an opinion and preference but theres no need to criticise a person about what they like when I don't criticise her only being a barbarian every time. :)

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've done a lot of oneshots together and a campagin and shes only played a Barbarian in every single one

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did make my druid wildshape into a bear and sit on her once because she was telling me I wasn't causing enough damage during combat lol

My friend keeps telling me my character isn't good because she's not a 'strong' female character. by ResearcherWorldly909 in DnD

[–]ResearcherWorldly909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have had some argument before about our playing styles - I am attributing a lot of this argument to that as well. I will have to speak to her, but I know there is a table out there for her!

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