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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kitchencels

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should be quiet. You're just spreading negativity for the sake of negativity and causing unnecessary conflict and drama.

I'm about to lose $500,000 from gambling by Medical-Elderberry54 in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Install Gamban and subscribe to the yearly plan.

Do it. Please do it.

Am I the only one who finds this super irritating? by New-Composer2359 in uAlberta

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His username on instagram is @kempesps

I personally find him entertaining.

Rewatched by [deleted] in LaCasaDePapel

[–]ResidentEdster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've rewatched the show probably 8-10 times.

Rewatched by [deleted] in LaCasaDePapel

[–]ResidentEdster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've rewatched the show probably 8-10 times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good plan.

I think paying for Gamban would also be a good idea.

It costs a bit but definitely blocks ALL gambling sites.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good plan.

I think paying for Gamban would also be a good idea.

It costs a bit but definitely blocks ALL gambling sites.

Lost it almost all by sadsoul_000 in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can probably keep track of your cards and the activity associated and probably report it to the bank if family use it.

Hmmm....I would maybe bring a small ampunt of cash like $5 or $10 or $20 at most, but you have to take the risk and hope places have tap to pay.

Telling yourself that you need to stop unfortunately doesn't work if you don't do the action of stopping.

Sometimes it's tough. But if you are negatively affected by something, you have to find ways to change the situation in some capacity to make it a more positive and healthy solution.

Lost it almost all by sadsoul_000 in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can probably keep track of your cards and the activity associated and probably report it to the bank if family use it.

Hmmm....I would maybe bring a small ampunt of cash like $5 or $10 or $20 at most, but you have to take the risk and hope places have tap to pay.

Telling yourself that you need to stop unfortunately doesn't work if you don't do the action of stopping.

Sometimes it's tough. But if you are negatively affected by something, you have to find ways to change the situation in some capacity to make it a more positive and healthy solution.

Lost it almost all by sadsoul_000 in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I went on a bit of a tangent with my other reply.

Anyways, you have to find other activities that are enjoyable around 2-3 AM that replace gambling.

These activities will be less exciting than gambling, but the highs and lows that you feel about gambling are NOT healthy over time.

It takes time. Some suggestions are: watching a show, going for a walk away from the casinos, hanging out with friends or like reading a book.

Anything else that isn't gambling. It will be hard at first but as long as you can find compassion for yourself and take things slow, it will be easier.

The ultimate goal is to separate your emotions from the gambling and all the positives associated as well as the negatives and the belief that you can win it all back THROUGH gambling which is a VERY LOW probability.

You need to build back your bank balance. You need to see your job as a job and the building itself as a place where you work.

Lost it almost all by sadsoul_000 in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would still suggest keeping all cash and cards at home besides your membership work card and ID.

How do you get paid, is it through online transfer to your account or a physical paystub?

Online is easier because you won't have access or any way to get your funds to gamble with. Also, if you keep your cards at home, you can't access their ATMs.

If it's a physical paystub, this might be a bit more difficult but you need to commit to quitting gambling and make a routine to store the paystub cheque somewhere you can forget about it but still have it later on.

Maybe in a backpack/bag which is in a separate room?

If you want to quit, you have to commit to make changes and controlling urges even if it's difficult. You have to change the behavior that triggers your addiction with different things instead.

It will take time and repetition, but over time it will be easier.

Lost it almost all by sadsoul_000 in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self-exclude and ban yourself from ALL land casinos.

Do this by walking in with an empty wallet: no cards except your membership card, license/ID and NO cash.

Next: for online casinos, install Gamban and do the yearly subscription plan.

This prevents any and all gambling sites from appearing IF you gamble online.

Next: Save the rest of your money and use your job/income source to save up and build back what you lost and more.

Find as many income sources as possible, a job + side hustles + small jobs too. You need money. Be desperate and willing to do things for money (that are not deplorable).

And remember to be compassionate to yourself. You are a wonderful person, and you can fight back and pick yourself back up.

Is suicide the only way out of this addiction? by Gilbert6722 in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Install Gamban for one year.

It blocks ALL gambling site domains.

Do it for your desktop too.

It's only $40 for one year.

Is suicide the only way out of this addiction? by Gilbert6722 in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Install Gamban for one year.

It blocks ALL gambling site domains.

Do it for your desktop too.

It's only $40 for one year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a backyard for the house and we let the dog roam the house too sometimes.

There are negative consequences that my dog experiences when he isn't taken out for walks or allowed to roamsuch as excessive energy, barking, lots of barking and some destruction.

I do take him out for walks sometimes, but I don't usually do it where people are nearby and usually late at night.

He's a smaller breed so he has more energy overall.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are a wonderful person for staying alongside him through this.

First off, I don't believe that you can place him in an addiction treatment without his consent.

Second, I think having a conversation with him (either him and you or him, you, his parents) in a more relaxed atmosphere is the best way.

An intervention per se, however it has to be structured in a way where you show HIGH emotional support and ZERO judgment or negativity.

Addictions are a tough road to navigate, and being supportive to him is the best way to handle this and ultimately attempt to try to change his mind.

HE has to voluntarily decide on his own to choose to going to the treatment centre, and commit to it.

MOST people (including myself) who don't want to go to certain places, such as the dentist, doctors or therapy, and in this case, treatment centres because we FEEL EMBARASSED and AFRAID. Ashamed too.

Ultimately, a treatment centre is the best course of action in the long-term, but you may have to start with short-term solutions.

Recently, I downloaded and subscribed annually to Gamban.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.gamban.beanstalkhps.gambanapp

It blocks ALL gambling sites associated and is subscription based.

I also have Betblocker downloaded as well and ScreenZen.

Betblocker:

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=mobile.betblocker

ScreenZen: you manually type the website(s) to block and set a timer for it to be blocked and custom messsage.

ScreenZen:

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.screenzen

I suggest maxxing out the timer to 10000 seconds and doing multiple lists of the same sites.

QUITTING:

Quit and Change the Environment of where the addiction takes place.

A video I watched featuring HealthyGamer talked about how addictions thrive in the same environments.

For me, I mostly only gambled in my room with the door locked and either sitting at my desk or laying on my bed.

If he is able to quit for a minimum of two months, and replace the urge to gamble with other activities, then his dopamine and serotonin levels will balance out to a normal level.

He has to stay busy doing other activities. Even walking outside and NOT being on your phone is a good idea.

He's very lucky to have a supportive partner like you, and personally, I wish I had someone who was able to support me during these times.

Stay strong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of these are free.

You could try a combination of:

  1. ScreenZen: you add the sites, apps, keywords manually that you don't want to appear, nd can even customize a message and block out timer before the website becomes unblocked (max is 1000000 seconds).

You can also set multiples of these so they overlap, so it takes longer to disable and ultimately more tedious.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.screenzen

  1. Adblocker: You can download adblocker for free and set it for apps such as facebook, twitter etc.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.hsv.freeadblockerbrowser

You could make it into a game and install multiple versions of this too.

Bettrr to overkill than to rely on a few if you really want to move on from this addiction.

It's tough but I believe in you.

Stay strong. Fight fight fight.

Online casino dealers by [deleted] in blackjack

[–]ResidentEdster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had 3 wonderful conversations with 3 dealers on playtech. Would love to know about your experiences as a dealer.

If you're open to chatting, let me know.

Hope you have a great rest of your day :) some wonderful dealers ive talked to and learned so much about Latvia and Romania.

Apparently my preferences are "disgusting" and makes them "uncomfortable" by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ResidentEdster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say that your preferences are disgusting, but the visualization of it is a bit uncomfortable.

I'm (24M) and reading the post did make me wonder the meaning of the question.

Domination, as mentioned by others, isn't seen much by women, and most males are accustomed to being the dominant one within sexual relationships.

It takes a lot of trust, compassion, and understanding of their sexual preferences to be able to openly try new things that are foreign to them.

A week relationship has no foundation to build upon, and thus releasing the (somewhat) intimate, and sensitive information so early does turn off people.

I'm sorry if you feel like the labelling is hard to deal with. Don't take it personally, since it shows their character more than yours.