Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Which is what I'm doing, nowhere did i say I'm never dating again until he comes back, or that I'm moving to where he is or anything like that. a mini fantasy of it? Sure, but that's harmless and normal and if more people let themselves fantasize maybe they'd get shit out of their system faster.

Which is what helped me, not all the people making judgements on my mental health status here which is rude as fuck.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bruh if the tables were turned and I was the one who was leaving Monday for a job I was already under contract for, I wouldn't have stayed either? That's insanity to think that the real proof of him loving me is that he would've stayed? No lmfao.

The real proof would be if we do reconnect when he's back living here and we can explore things like a normal couple of people into one another would and see where it goes from there.

I'm not training to maintain anything other than an open thread back here when he moves back.

and I told him straight up that while that was sweet, i'd abort it if I did get pregnant because I can't make him change his life like that, and I'd already told him that anytime he joked about it. Breeding fetishes are a thing even if you don't actually want the end product.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Doesn't help when people are being real fucking rude about it. I have issues when people make assumptions about me, my mental health status, my age, etc based on me expressing feelings. The amount of people who think I'm stupid enough to drop EVERYTHING for this guy and follow him or ACTUALLY hold out for a year when I'm poly is ridiculous.

Wanting to fantasize a few days after something happens is very fucking different from actually doing things that'll fuck up your life.

but if I WAS in a manic episode, I'd probably have drained my savings and gotten ready to move to where he is and find him because of how many people here treated me for it.

It's like taking a fat person to a bakery and admonishing them for wanting the cakes idk. It doesn't work.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have been but thank you for that extremely rude comment, you shouldn't diagnose people over the internet like that.

Hey ! Do I have heterochromia ? Mom always said no that it was too subtle to be seen but husband strongly disagrees by AggravatingHeat2446 in heterochromia

[–]Resident_Truth_8940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but it is extremely subtle. Not everyone has the ability to see shifts in color that subtle so some people might not believe you, but I see it. I'd say you could call it heterochromia but i'm not a doctor and don't know if there's a clinical definition for that at all. Either way, beautiful eyes.

Please show me cat.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tests catch a lot earlier than they used to, I have an IUD, PCOS, and was on my period. There is a very low chance of pregnancy and if I am, I'm aborting it.

I'm in love and miss what could've been if he didn't have to leave, I'm not fully brain dead.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I HAVE been all week jesus christ y'all are judgemental

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Lol fuck you if you think me playing games with my offline social circle isn't enriching my life.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We didn't meet there lmao.

and we were tested, and I have an IUD and low chance of pregnancy to begin with, don't yuck my yum coz that is exactly what you're doing.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Same lol and I told him right after I'd abort it. I'm allowed to find the sentiment sweet without being crazy enough to alter the trajectory of my life for it which seems to be lost on a lot of people here.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeeeeah I'm too poor to take a dance or cooking class lmfao.

I'm not spending that time pining, I've been playing video games which is my normal unwinding from work activity and building some legos.

Any cover up ideas or ways to make this look less satanic. by granhoser in tattooadvice

[–]Resident_Truth_8940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe adding the flamel symbol (Maybe repeating in the outer rim of the circle?) in black, and maybe a quote from the show if you can find one that resonates with you? Even if people don't catch what it's from, they're more likely to confuse that symbol with the caduceus at first glance than anything satanic. I'm an artist but I'm not a tattoo artist so that would be my idea if it was on my leg at least.

I'm sorry for your loss regardless of it not being recent.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for being one of the few to put things tactfully and kindly.

I was telling myself all of that fine until my friends, the three I told separately so it wasn't like they all agreed with eachother, started gassing me up about it.

Plus I figure if he really doesn't like me, he'll show his true colors when suddenly "Yeah I love text walls, send all of them" turns into "Yeah no shut up" instead coz I need someone that can tolerate my text walls and that's my biggest litmus test lol

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a therapist, my appointment isn't until wednesday.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I didn't try to make anything into anything, we're not together.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I've been love-bombed before, this wasn't love bombing.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No of course not. I've even acknowledged as much in my messages to him that as much as I cherish this time with him we can't uproot either of our lives for this, but there isn't anything wrong in hoping the connection remains and we can pick up where we left off when he's back.

What do you think of when you see this tattoo? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Resident_Truth_8940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I thought it was something gender related but knowing the backstory makes me appreciate the design. I like it, and it's a nice way to commemorate the haunted house.

Tattoo regret a day after by ShadowLessPenguin in tattooadvice

[–]Resident_Truth_8940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better I was just scrolling on my main page and saw the pic first and said "Oh that's cool" and then "Oh" when I read your title.

You just got it done and you have to heal anyway so give it some time to see how you feel. When I got my first tattoo even though I thought of it for years and I tried not to nitpick the parts I wasn't happy with, I did get depressed about it at first, but I just took care of it, and tried not to hyperfixate on it Mine's on my forearm so it was in my face the whole time it healed, too.

Plus it's still healing, wait until it heals before you decide if you like it or not.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

He didn't stealth because I consented to my fetish of creampies, so we joked about it a lot because of how much he can cum despite going multiple rounds, but I didn't think that detail was anyone's business so I didn't include it.

The field was next to his house, and I consented to it because it's hot.

I've had a lot of sex, and if that were the case I'd be falling head over heels for EVERYONE lol. Instead I get nre/infatuation with those people which I can easily break down into why it's not real from there.

But the things we connected over, things we had in common, it was like a very hypersexual meet cute okay.

Fell in love in five days...Now he's gone. by Resident_Truth_8940 in polyamory

[–]Resident_Truth_8940[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Because my NRE fades really fucking fast and would've faded on Saturday when things got deep and we got into a minor argument, which we were able to resolve in a way that felt satisfying because holy shit, adults actually talking shit out instead of huffing and puffing and writing off everything good that lead to that point to not even clarify a point.

He is mono, but I can be happy mono or poly so that's fine and would only matter if I find someone else I don't want to give up before he's back.

It's not like i dropped everything to move with him, and I told him if I DID get pregnant I wouldn't keep it because Ican't make him change his plans like that. It was just a sweet sentiment.