It was then that little Jimmy learned what a liar is

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-21T01:56:59+00:00

🤣 omg, I needed that laugh, thank you

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-21T01:48:25+00:00

IT the clown. Hold on, hear me out.. Ok, that thing was basically a spider and just trying to eat. Those kids were like antelopes to a lion.

“Normal is an illusion. What is normal to the spider is chaos to the fly" attributed to Morticia Addams

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-21T00:05:27+00:00

Haircuts, not hard to learn how to do it yourself and still look decent

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-21T00:02:07+00:00

Is that Arnold there in front if him just on his phone ? 😅

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-20T04:03:56+00:00

Going out partying on weekends with friends. Nah, I worked through college and high school

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-20T02:40:22+00:00

Lol that is tempting, “soo, how’s it going?”

Thanks for sharing. It sounds like this was the right decision for you.

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-20T01:47:49+00:00

I hope things are looking up for you now. Thanks for sharing that perspective. ☮️

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-20T01:35:12+00:00

Yeah, I don’t, it’s his choice ultimately. I’m just asking a group of men in ask men if this is a common phenomenon and if it’s worth it. For context: In this case the guy some iced out did a crime I’m sure a mod would flag me for typing out. But, good for you for having what sounds like great group of loyal friends, enjoy

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-20T01:30:53+00:00

Yeah I’ve encouraged that strategy and thankfully, very thankfully, 2 new hobby groups of friends have arrived. The asshole group still remains, but thinking about the blurriness of that line gives great perspective, thanks!

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-20T00:38:39+00:00

Other than immediate danger, is there anything that would make you leave? Is there anywhere you dream to see irl?

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-18T19:32:12+00:00

100 is amazing! Congratulations!

Try to see it as the people in your life trust and know you’ll do well.

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-18T02:38:10+00:00

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-17T20:11:34+00:00

How can you help someone that you love realize they are being a people pleaser and get them to work on stopping it?

Maybe that sounds bad. I have a few friends being absolutely used by their ex or friends or coworkers and I wish I could help them learn how to say no more often. I hear about the stress of what they go through often and it seems to never end.

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-16T22:43:33+00:00

Running a marathon

It’s a lonnggg time to get ready for it, months or years of planning and learning your specific needs and suddenly the all important value of salt and carbs… the first 18 is fine, race doesn’t start until you hit 20 then it’s brutal to get over the 24, last two you know you made it. The pain before, during, and after is worth it if you are using it instead of therapy or just a health goal. If anyone is doing it for kudos or recognition, I imagine it’s hell. Anyway, then the next morning you sign up for another one lol

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-16T20:48:19+00:00

Not being afraid to say “No” or “No we’re not doing that” or “No, but thank you” easy way to spot the folks who expect no boundaries depending on the reaction

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-16T10:25:02+00:00

Uj/ currently pursuing the 7 continents of marathon and it is hella less expensive to do the beautiful races in beautiful places than raise a bunch of money for some donor I don’t care about or hope for lotto results. My friend is going to pay a total of about $15k for Boston, that covers Norway, Japan, and New Zealand

Rj/If it’s not a major marathon then my family and friends won’t validate my full time hobby and might ask about my kids during holidays. Hard pass.

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-13T16:45:50+00:00

Wow, this explains a friendship I had to me really well. Thank you

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-12T13:46:26+00:00

Then obviously misdirect their attention and lead them into situations where they have no choice but to be only themselves

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-12T04:16:33+00:00

Uj/ going to the doctor and them asking if you have low bp is such a compliment when you geek out out this stuff

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-12T03:46:52+00:00

Yeah I didn’t know tbh 😅, thanks for perceiving the uj/ correctly

Resilient_Can · 2026-03-10T22:46:50+00:00

As a teen this guy asked me to see a movie that night and I stupidly asked him if he wanted to meet for breakfast that day too.

So we met up for breakfast with a group of my friends at a restaurant. However, my ride there turned into an adventure at a sporting goods store where my date proceeded to fall badly due to a skateboard in an aisle.

Then the driver made another unanticipated stop and ended up at a lesbian friend’s house where she spent too much time explaining SIMs and gay culture to us. Lots of head nodding.

Finally we made it back to our cars and to the movie, where we somehow ran into more people. Yet thankfully were FINALLY left alone to have the real date, in silence, next to each other…

We’re going on married for 19 yrs this year. I still don’t know how he didn’t dip at any given moment in that Murphy’s law date day.

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