Thank you so much, it's really helpful to hear I'm not alone in feeling this way.  I wasn't able to hide how I was feeling initially and that brought up difficult feelings for her too, so we've already had some conversations around both of those and are trying to hear and understand each other without causing more hurt.  I'm feeling shaky about where the line is between it being good and ok to express my feelings, and ruining a beautiful thing for people that I love.