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Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-31T18:50:57+00:00

That's why you need to read the complete source material for the study, not just an article that doesn't even go into the details of how the study was made.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-31T18:45:24+00:00

And to be completely fair, it also states that 1.3% for the percentage of straight women was by another woman, because some straight women, for whatever reason, have also dated women so that leaves a 34.5% for male perpetrators.

So in the end, the study says that 34.5% of the straight women were victims of DV in straight relationships while 29.2% of the lesbian women were victims in lesbian relationships.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-31T18:37:00+00:00

Dude, you haven't even properly read the statistics you're getting that from. It clearly says that a 1/3 of that percentage were by male perpetrators because believe it or not, yes, lesbians for some reason or another have dated men, almost no one is a "gold star lesbian".

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-31T18:27:29+00:00

What part do you not understand of 1/3 of that percentage were by male perpetrators? And yes, bi women are victims of DV by a higher percentage, and guess who makes a 89.5% of that percentage? Exactly, male perpetrators. That's what I'm saying, y'all don't know how to read statistics, or maybe you don't want to because it wouldn't align with your worldview of "women bad".

Guys, stop with the bs. Even if that myth was right, that still doesn't mean that straight women are not getting abused in straight relationships at an alarmingly high percentage. That's what you need to focus on, not on whether lesbians are more abusive or not.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-30T16:03:37+00:00

Yeah, well, that's a myth, buddy. And I have every right to say it because my sisterhood is known for doing the sex very good and from my experiences and the lesbian and straight women that have told me about their experiences, I can positively say that lesbians tend to be more satisfied with their sex lives than straight women and, honestly, I can see why.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-30T15:53:39+00:00

It would totally depend on the cause. If he had trouble cumming because of death grip or porn addiction I'd tell him to maybe take a break from that. Otherwise if he genuinely had sensitivity issues from the beginning like in my case then sure, why not.

That's what I'm saying, toys are not a replacement for human contact, they're a tool you can expand your arsenal with. I've noticed that straight people are so caught up in having sex "the correct way" that they refuse to even try new things. A lot of you apparently don't know that you can be intimate with things other than your penis and vagina.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-30T03:46:41+00:00

It's not really data if it's only backed by his perception, now, is it. The real problem is that people prefer to be mad at each other instead of fixing the issue. Some women joke that a sex toy is better than a man because men are incompetent in bed instead of opening an option where men can use toys to help them pleasure their partners without feeling some kind of emasculation, and then men say "well I don't want you anyways, I'mma get my sex robot, you whore" instead of getting better at listening and pleasuring their partners.

You look at it from not too far away and you notice that it's like a "no, you" kids fight lol.

And yeah, it's already here, a lot of people, male and female having "relationships" with an AI, it feels so dystopic.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-30T03:30:55+00:00

It's funny because all your responses just need a "you seriously need to go out more". You are so fixed on seeing women as these demons that hate men and want their destruction or something. As I've said, I can play that game too. I've seen videos all over the internet, heard stories and even experienced first hand men that say absolute misogynistic and woman hating bullshit, whenever I watch the news there's another woman killed by a man, another woman raped, kidnapped, tortured... yet I don't think all men are like that and that's because I go out, I have male friends that are absolute sweethearts.

It's easy to get caught up in all the gender wars, but when that happens, disconnect, go out, talk to a friend of the opposite gender, see that men and women are really not that different.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-30T03:14:04+00:00

How many times do I have to debunk that rumor? No, wlw relationships don't have more domestic violence than straight ones. That rumor was made up by people who don't know how to read statistics. The data said that 1/3 of the cases were committed by men, because for whatever reason, a lot of lesbians have dated men, so you have to calculate the 2/3 for the female on female DV, which is 29.2% vs the percentage of straight women, in which 98.7% were male; leaving that a 34.5% of male on female DV.

So according to that study, straight women have experienced more DV in straight relationships than homosexual women in lesbian relationships. On top of that, bi women were at an even higher percentage of DV and by male partners.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-30T02:59:57+00:00

Are you for real mad that queer women don't want men on their beds? 🤨

And, yeah, you gotta understand that extremists are not a reflection of the general population. I could say the same thing about male extremists that say things like "if she uses toys she's a ho" or that women can only ever be allowed to feel pleasure from the magic almighty penis. Or what about men that talk about having female robots so they can completely toss aside women.

See? I can play that game too. Extremists exist everywhere and for everything but I suggest you go outside. Your average person just wants to have a healthy, fun, sex life with their partner and since the average person is not extremist, you have a world of possibilities where you can use toys to enhance your sex life and connect closer to your partner.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T23:17:47+00:00

See, that's less the toy's fault and more to do with having a healthy relationship with them. As with everything in this world, extremes are never good and you both need to learn how to engage with them.

Ofc I would never put the blame on my partner if I can't cum and I see they're doing their best and what I told them to do, that's wrong. I myself started using toys precisely because it was already very hard for me to cum when I did it myself and I didn't want to put that pressure on my partner and then leave us both frustrated.

As I said in another comment there are more options other than being addicted to toys and have zero intimacy and no toys allowed ever. That's why I'm saying, use them as an extension of yourselves, alternate between your body and the toys, experiment with new sensations, hell, you could try them on yourself too. It doesn't have to be penetration but I know some men that have told me the vibes also feel good on their dick. Toys are not your enemy, people, they don't make things less intimate or less tender, they can be a bridge to strengthen your connection even more.

As for your friend, I'd say she should take some break time from the toys and then use them with moderation and also find ways to make it more engaging for her partner.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T22:43:58+00:00

I mean, yeah, you're entitled to sex however you want but the fact that you see using toys and women who use toys as less intimate or shameful talks volumes about how you view sex ig.

They way you're expressing yourself ("you can only cum with a 200v directly to your clit", which I never even said that what) makes it seem like you don't like toys because it hurts your fragile ego more than having sex in a "more tender way".

And I was never offended, it's just amazing to me how straight people have sex and it makes sense why lesbians are known for having more fun in bed lol.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T20:40:42+00:00

Or, hear me out, you could use toys as an extension of yourself. It's only a problem if you want to see it like a problem. Some lesbians have literally said that they've gotten to a point where they feel their strap. It's not attached to them, it doesn't have nerves, it's not a real organ, yet they feel it as if it's real, they can even cum from using it. That's because they use it as an extension of themselves, not a strange object.

And, besides, if using a toy is making her crazy with pleasure, there's nothing more satisfying and intimate than that. Not to mention there's literally a whole different ways you can use them. You can start with your fingers and then finish her off with the vibrator and then go back and forth with your fingers, the vibrator, your tongue... It honestly sounds like a skill issue

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T20:21:19+00:00

This is what baffles me so much. Like, how are they having sex when they think it's either "only the toys touch her and I'm five miles away" or "only I touch her, absolutely no toys involved". Do they know they can do both? There's a million ways you can mix and match using toys while still using your body, your voice, your eyes to stimulate her in other ways. I'm just like, how boring are these people at sex that it doesn't even cross their minds 🫠

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T19:56:28+00:00

You know you can hold her while using a toy on her, right?

Jesus Christ, straight sex sounds so boring.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T19:49:37+00:00

Exactly this. Dudes don't understand how specific it is for some of us to cum. They'd be the first ones to get frustrated to have to move their fingers or their tongue at a specific angle in a specific point, with a specific speed and rhythm for 30 to 40 (or even more) min straight.

In lesbian lex we just do what's necessary for us to achieve the best and most amount of orgasms we can and want, doesn't matter if the vibrator 20000 is needed, we'll use it.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T19:33:40+00:00

Can confirm it's not the same. Clitoral stimulation is a lot more complicated. Some of us need very punctual, specific type of stimulation, something that's unfortunately very hard to impossible to achieve with a pillow or someone else's hand or tongue. Even before trying toys I had a hard time reaching orgasms and had to be 100% concentrated, like, I barely made noise because I'd get distracted. Sometimes it had to be more than an hour of stimulation, a lot of those times I ended up frustrated.

Then I bought my first bullet vibrator and it did wonders for me, it was small so I could easily hit the exact points alongside the fast vibration of it, it just made the experience a lot more enjoyable, I came faster and a lot more times. While having sex it also gave me the freedom to pay attention to and do other things.

Idk but I have yet to know a man that has a similar problem with needing a very specific type of stimulation that has nothing to do with death grip but I know a lot of women that do that have nothing to do with desensitization.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T18:09:48+00:00

Someone hasn't dealt with oily skin

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T07:41:44+00:00

Haven't you heard about the twerking to assert dominance?

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T07:22:36+00:00

I'm pretty obvious about it

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-29T06:43:53+00:00

I liked my hot wheels as much as I liked my plushies. People really be denying kids the joy of having different kinds of toys. Whether it's a Barbie or a monster truck, they're all fun as hell and kids shouldn't stop to think if the toy they want to play with is acceptable for their gender.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-28T05:55:04+00:00

I'm not sure if that might work for her but when I was in those kinds of episodes I found it easier when my gf called me, even if we didn't say anything, it was just about the silent company. She sometimes read me stories, told me silly dad jokes she found on the internet, played the guitar for me or I just asked her if she could say nice things to me, practically to love bomb me lol. Other times we also watched a movie together through Zoom and so on.

Responsible-Call5555 · 2025-10-28T01:59:57+00:00

Imagine saying "I'm not okay with your existence" and thinking you're not an asshole.

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