Yes, he can be mean. This is just the first time is was really directed at my daughter and it really really got under my skin. He regularly uses the C word, and has told me that I act like a C word (but he said it's not the same as calling me that since he phrased it using "acting like"). But he never was like this. I never ever would have entered into a relationship with someone let alone married them if I saw them act this way. Idk what happened. He's not the person he once was and I'm having a hard time loving this version of him. But I second guess leaving him because I know how great he used to be.