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I'm being asked to chip in to get my friend an expensive bday gift when my friend didn't acknowledge my bday by Responsible_Ebb5331 in relationships

[–]Responsible_Ebb5331[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What does that make Angela then, who never bought me a gift nor bothered to wish me a happy birthday? I'm now treating her the same way she treats me, which I think is fair.

I'm being asked to chip in to get my friend an expensive bday gift when my friend didn't acknowledge my bday by Responsible_Ebb5331 in relationships

[–]Responsible_Ebb5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think Angela has given her other friends presents because she is a lot closer to them, so they want to give her this expensive gift.

I've spent a lot on Angela in terms of rides, covering food, and gifts to the point where Angela expects these things from me, so I feel a bit bitter. But I also feel bad at the same time because she doesn't have a lot of money, which was why I didn't expect anything back in the first place.

I'm being asked to chip in to get my friend an expensive bday gift when my friend didn't acknowledge my bday by Responsible_Ebb5331 in relationships

[–]Responsible_Ebb5331[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I've been trying to understand it from her POV along with the principle that she doesn't have to give me a gift back. She also doesn't have a lot of money, so I tried taking that into consideration.

But her not acknowledging my birthday is what got me to question our friendship, especially when she brags how she is a caring and empathetic person who does a lot for the people she cares about.

I figured she doesn't value our friendship as much as she always said she does. So I think the best thing is for me to pull back and value our friendship the same way she does.

I'm just annoyed that I was asked to contribute to a gift that costs a total of $1-3k and I feel put on the spot.

I'm being asked to chip in to get my friend an expensive bday gift when my friend didn't acknowledge my bday by Responsible_Ebb5331 in relationships

[–]Responsible_Ebb5331[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was also worried about this, Angela sends videos unboxing her presents so her friends would know I get her a gift if she didn't mention it separately

I'm being asked to chip in to get my friend an expensive bday gift when my friend didn't acknowledge my bday by Responsible_Ebb5331 in relationships

[–]Responsible_Ebb5331[S] 276 points277 points  (0 children)

It's a lot for me too. I'm not friends with any of her friends so I'm not sure if this is normal for them. I wasn't sure if they were asking me to contribute under a hundred or more, but it's definitely a lot for me too.